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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 256393" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Doll - not courageous, certainly not strong (just ask the folks on the board, LOL - they've seen me at my very wimpiest over the years). It's all relative. For example, I am in awe of single parents. Truely. While I know we do what we have to do, I simply cannot imagine having to raise a child, much less a difficult child, on my own. I think it would bring me to my knees. </p><p> </p><p>I'm hoping that the uninvested part isn't the final outcome. I'm hoping that like guru's daughter, my son will finally put to use the skills he does have to get it together. For us, it's time to pull back and let him do things for himself. Me making all the calls and setting everything up for him sure didn't work. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> While I wish he would do them because it's the right thing to do and what he needs to do, I think he may only do them when everything else fails. And he's a really creative kid when it comes to doing everything *except* what he needs to. </p><p> </p><p>It's tough. I honestly thought up until about a year ago that him turning 18 would be a relief. A reprieve, you know? That he'd finally be responsible for his own life. Joke's on me, and I'm not laughing much these days.</p><p> </p><p>But - 18 is still really very young. Hopefully these man-children of ours will get on with living. Sooner rather than later would be nice, but I ask for a lot. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> But it's incredibly hard to watch them take wrong turn after wrong turn. </p><p> </p><p>I feel very lucky in that I've watched parents travel this path for the last 10 years here on the board. These folks have been there done that. The only thing I know for sure is that I have absolutely no control over his choices now and I have to sit back and shut up with- him. (I actually, honest to goodness, have "SHUT UP" written on an index card and taped to my desk.) And as much as it just wrecks me to not rescue him, I have stopped doing that. He is the only one who can improve his quality of life.</p><p> </p><p>It's a heck of a journey but at least we're in good company. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/flowers.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":flowers:" title="flowers :flowers:" data-shortname=":flowers:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 256393, member: 8"] Doll - not courageous, certainly not strong (just ask the folks on the board, LOL - they've seen me at my very wimpiest over the years). It's all relative. For example, I am in awe of single parents. Truely. While I know we do what we have to do, I simply cannot imagine having to raise a child, much less a difficult child, on my own. I think it would bring me to my knees. I'm hoping that the uninvested part isn't the final outcome. I'm hoping that like guru's daughter, my son will finally put to use the skills he does have to get it together. For us, it's time to pull back and let him do things for himself. Me making all the calls and setting everything up for him sure didn't work. ;) While I wish he would do them because it's the right thing to do and what he needs to do, I think he may only do them when everything else fails. And he's a really creative kid when it comes to doing everything *except* what he needs to. It's tough. I honestly thought up until about a year ago that him turning 18 would be a relief. A reprieve, you know? That he'd finally be responsible for his own life. Joke's on me, and I'm not laughing much these days. But - 18 is still really very young. Hopefully these man-children of ours will get on with living. Sooner rather than later would be nice, but I ask for a lot. ;) But it's incredibly hard to watch them take wrong turn after wrong turn. I feel very lucky in that I've watched parents travel this path for the last 10 years here on the board. These folks have been there done that. The only thing I know for sure is that I have absolutely no control over his choices now and I have to sit back and shut up with- him. (I actually, honest to goodness, have "SHUT UP" written on an index card and taped to my desk.) And as much as it just wrecks me to not rescue him, I have stopped doing that. He is the only one who can improve his quality of life. It's a heck of a journey but at least we're in good company. :flowers: [/QUOTE]
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