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<blockquote data-quote="therese005us" data-source="post: 305571" data-attributes="member: 7416"><p><span style="font-size: 12px">Star* you probably wouldn't believe this, but I object to even buying them on his behalf! I've done it once, can't remember what got into me, but I was apologising and sputtering to the shop assistant, making sure she knew they weren't mine! It's against my nature, I have never been able to do it! </span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px">Anyway, today was a better day.... see Good Morning Thursday Post....</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px">Now for the fun bit.... I am putting together an agreement that I hope will work for a bit</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">With the help of job services, I have drafted an agreement plan for william.</span></span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">It goes a little like this but is still a little rough yet:</span></span></span></span></p><p> </p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 12px">$280 rent per fortnight, including:</span></span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 12px">Food $80</span></span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 12px">Rent $140</span></span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 12px">Washing/Ironing $40</span></span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 12px">Petrol $40 (for regular trips to work or training</span></span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 12px">He should save $ ??? into an investment account which is a jointly signed account - whereby he can't take out money without my signature and vice versa.</span></span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 12px">$??? left for spending , from what he earns for his own use</span></span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 12px">Any special trips outside work/training petrol is to be paid for @ 40 cents/km.</span></span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 12px">He should do jobs at home when requested (cheerfully if possible) for around 1-2 hours daily.</span></span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 12px">Electricity to van will be after 5pm on weekdays Mon - Sat, and all day Sunday.</span></span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">His first reaction was horror that I want to raise the board! I'm just after his money you see.</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">Then I explained it. That it would be at least $280 just for rent in a flat, then he'd have to buy food etc. petrol or other means of transport to work.</span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">He doesn't like the idea of saving in a bank, wants it in his wallet. I'll have to get some help on this one. I would like to see him save more. I told him I'd nag him about it every pay day! I'll try and get the Job Services Counsellor to help on this one. </span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">Since he's home, I have done a fair bit of nagging, and he's saved $1000 in 11 months. That's quite an achievement for him. Trouble is, he can access the account at any time, without my knowledge (fine, it is his money) and spent it on whatever. He spent about $400 on an MP4, after his mate told him it was a good deal. Was determined he was going to get it. It came without a charger, and he has no means of downloading music unless he borrows a computer. So, really, a bit of a waste. Still, his money. He is so impulsive.</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">Then he said, "Well, then I don't have to do jobs then if I'm paying more board" !!! Oh, the logic of a 13 year old!!! (oh, I meant 19) </span></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">I told him he didn't get to be Lord of the Manor and do nothing! He still had to contribute as a family member. </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">We're still only talking about 'pre school jobs" like feeding the dog, and watering the chooks here, after all, oh, and bringing in wood to cook the his dinner and warm his bath water!!</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">Keep praying for me, won't you?</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">I still want to explore group home living for the future. But if he's going to be 'secure' for at least 6 months, that will give him time to settle into this routine, and then at home I'll try and get him to take more 'everyday' responsibility such as learning to cook a full, proper meal. Do his washing and such. He thinks pegging out washing is women's work, of course!! I bet he buys a dryer when he finally gets his own place!!</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">The Job Services are going to pay for 6 more lessons for his driving license, and he has to pay for six; his boots and shirts/trousers.</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">He has an induction day on Saturday all day and is already grumbling about wearing white shirt and black pants. I showed him in the jjob offer where it says he must - and lace up dress shoes too!!</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">He is still going to his work experience at the butcher's tomorrow and I must encourage him to phone his part time job and thank the boss (me too, I need to buy him flowers!! for putting up with my dear son) he has been so good to put up with him for 11 months.</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">Hey, he's come a long way in 11 months I guess. Did you notice my grey hair, bagged eyes, and skinny waist? Is it worth it? I think so. </span></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="therese005us, post: 305571, member: 7416"] [SIZE=3]Star* you probably wouldn't believe this, but I object to even buying them on his behalf! I've done it once, can't remember what got into me, but I was apologising and sputtering to the shop assistant, making sure she knew they weren't mine! It's against my nature, I have never been able to do it! [/SIZE] [SIZE=3][/SIZE] [SIZE=3]Anyway, today was a better day.... see Good Morning Thursday Post....[/SIZE] [SIZE=3][/SIZE] [SIZE=3]Now for the fun bit.... I am putting together an agreement that I hope will work for a bit[/SIZE] [SIZE=3][/SIZE] [COLOR=#000000][SIZE=3][FONT=Verdana][FONT=Arial]With the help of job services, I have drafted an agreement plan for william.[/FONT][/FONT][/SIZE][/COLOR] [COLOR=#000000][SIZE=3] [/SIZE][/COLOR] [COLOR=#000000][FONT=Verdana][SIZE=3][FONT=Arial]It goes a little like this but is still a little rough yet:[/FONT][/SIZE][/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#000000][SIZE=3] [/SIZE][/COLOR] [COLOR=#000000][SIZE=3] [/SIZE][/COLOR] [FONT=Arial][COLOR=#000000][FONT=Verdana][SIZE=3]$280 rent per fortnight, including:[/SIZE][/FONT][/COLOR][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][COLOR=#000000][FONT=Verdana][SIZE=3] [/SIZE][/FONT][/COLOR][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][COLOR=#000000][FONT=Verdana][SIZE=3]Food $80[/SIZE][/FONT][/COLOR][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][COLOR=#000000][FONT=Verdana][SIZE=3]Rent $140[/SIZE][/FONT][/COLOR][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][COLOR=#000000][FONT=Verdana][SIZE=3]Washing/Ironing $40[/SIZE][/FONT][/COLOR][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][COLOR=#000000][FONT=Verdana][SIZE=3]Petrol $40 (for regular trips to work or training[/SIZE][/FONT][/COLOR][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][COLOR=#000000][FONT=Verdana][SIZE=3] [/SIZE][/FONT][/COLOR][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][COLOR=#000000][FONT=Verdana][SIZE=3]He should save $ ??? into an investment account which is a jointly signed account - whereby he can't take out money without my signature and vice versa.[/SIZE][/FONT][/COLOR][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][COLOR=#000000][FONT=Verdana][SIZE=3] [/SIZE][/FONT][/COLOR][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][COLOR=#000000][FONT=Verdana][SIZE=3]$??? left for spending , from what he earns for his own use[/SIZE][/FONT][/COLOR][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][COLOR=#000000][FONT=Verdana][SIZE=3] [/SIZE][/FONT][/COLOR][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][COLOR=#000000][FONT=Verdana][SIZE=3]Any special trips outside work/training petrol is to be paid for @ 40 cents/km.[/SIZE][/FONT][/COLOR][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][COLOR=#000000][FONT=Verdana][SIZE=3] [/SIZE][/FONT][/COLOR][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][COLOR=#000000][FONT=Verdana][SIZE=3]He should do jobs at home when requested (cheerfully if possible) for around 1-2 hours daily.[/SIZE][/FONT][/COLOR][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][COLOR=#000000][FONT=Verdana][SIZE=3]Electricity to van will be after 5pm on weekdays Mon - Sat, and all day Sunday.[/SIZE][/FONT][/COLOR][/FONT] [COLOR=#000000][SIZE=3] [/SIZE][/COLOR] [COLOR=#000000][FONT=Verdana][FONT=Arial]His first reaction was horror that I want to raise the board! I'm just after his money you see.[/FONT][/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#000000] [/COLOR] [FONT=Verdana][COLOR=#000000][FONT=Arial]Then I explained it. That it would be at least $280 just for rent in a flat, then he'd have to buy food etc. petrol or other means of transport to work.[/FONT][/COLOR][/FONT] [FONT=Verdana][COLOR=#000000][FONT=Arial]He doesn't like the idea of saving in a bank, wants it in his wallet. I'll have to get some help on this one. I would like to see him save more. I told him I'd nag him about it every pay day! I'll try and get the Job Services Counsellor to help on this one. [/FONT][/COLOR][/FONT] [FONT=Verdana][COLOR=#000000][FONT=Arial]Since he's home, I have done a fair bit of nagging, and he's saved $1000 in 11 months. That's quite an achievement for him. Trouble is, he can access the account at any time, without my knowledge (fine, it is his money) and spent it on whatever. He spent about $400 on an MP4, after his mate told him it was a good deal. Was determined he was going to get it. It came without a charger, and he has no means of downloading music unless he borrows a computer. So, really, a bit of a waste. Still, his money. He is so impulsive.[/FONT][/COLOR][/FONT] [COLOR=#000000] [/COLOR] [COLOR=#000000][FONT=Verdana][FONT=Arial]Then he said, "Well, then I don't have to do jobs then if I'm paying more board" !!! Oh, the logic of a 13 year old!!! (oh, I meant 19) [/FONT][/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#000000][FONT=Verdana][FONT=Arial]I told him he didn't get to be Lord of the Manor and do nothing! He still had to contribute as a family member. [/FONT][/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#000000] [/COLOR] [COLOR=#000000][FONT=Verdana][FONT=Arial]We're still only talking about 'pre school jobs" like feeding the dog, and watering the chooks here, after all, oh, and bringing in wood to cook the his dinner and warm his bath water!![/FONT][/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#000000] [/COLOR] [COLOR=#000000][FONT=Verdana][FONT=Arial]Keep praying for me, won't you?[/FONT][/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#000000] [/COLOR] [COLOR=#000000][FONT=Verdana][FONT=Arial]I still want to explore group home living for the future. But if he's going to be 'secure' for at least 6 months, that will give him time to settle into this routine, and then at home I'll try and get him to take more 'everyday' responsibility such as learning to cook a full, proper meal. Do his washing and such. He thinks pegging out washing is women's work, of course!! I bet he buys a dryer when he finally gets his own place!![/FONT][/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#000000] [/COLOR] [COLOR=#000000][FONT=Verdana][FONT=Arial]The Job Services are going to pay for 6 more lessons for his driving license, and he has to pay for six; his boots and shirts/trousers.[/FONT][/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#000000] [/COLOR] [COLOR=#000000][FONT=Verdana][FONT=Arial]He has an induction day on Saturday all day and is already grumbling about wearing white shirt and black pants. I showed him in the jjob offer where it says he must - and lace up dress shoes too!![/FONT][/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#000000] [/COLOR] [COLOR=#000000][FONT=Verdana][FONT=Arial]He is still going to his work experience at the butcher's tomorrow and I must encourage him to phone his part time job and thank the boss (me too, I need to buy him flowers!! for putting up with my dear son) he has been so good to put up with him for 11 months.[/FONT][/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#000000] [/COLOR] [COLOR=#000000][FONT=Verdana][FONT=Arial]Hey, he's come a long way in 11 months I guess. Did you notice my grey hair, bagged eyes, and skinny waist? Is it worth it? I think so. [/FONT][/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#000000] [/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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