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<blockquote data-quote="Sam3" data-source="post: 660804" data-attributes="member: 19290"><p>I just joined to respond to your post. </p><p></p><p>We are in the exact same place. Day 25 or so in Residential Treatment Center (RTC). Our 16 yo son said every word, and I mean every word, of what your son is saying about your family and about treatment. A few more you may hear: the treatment center is just there to take your money, they always refer to some affiliated after-care program to get some more of your money, everyone here is way worse off than I am, I'm not an addict or alcoholic, my issues are different, everyone stays here longer than the minimum unless their parents insist, the rules are stupid, too restrictive, the program is boring, all the other residents are going to check themselves out on their 18th birthday, I can't sleep here ... To give credit where credit is due, he has said the food is good. </p><p></p><p>So, up until a week ago, according to my son, we are overpaying by many thousands of dollars for nice meals, for what is not really a substance problem but a parent problem.</p><p></p><p>He is starting to say some of the right things in family sessions now, but of course, the fear is that they are just faking it till they make it. One of the kids whose parent promised only the minimum stay looked like a glowing example of the program's success in multi-family sessions, until two days after discharge he started up again. I am going to a support group of parents who have alumni kids of the program. Some of the kids are doing well. Some are not. Regardless, all of the parents seem to be healthier by communicating better, maintaining boundaries and caring for themselves. Some parents suggest the kids' success depends on surrendering to the wisdom of the treatment professionals regarding changes needed at home, after-care programs, etc. At this point, that seems like the right answer, but it's difficult to wrap your head around the idea that Residential Treatment Center (RTC) may be just the beginning of sustained treatment attempts rather than the end of the problem. But then I remember Day2 Guy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sam3, post: 660804, member: 19290"] I just joined to respond to your post. We are in the exact same place. Day 25 or so in Residential Treatment Center (RTC). Our 16 yo son said every word, and I mean every word, of what your son is saying about your family and about treatment. A few more you may hear: the treatment center is just there to take your money, they always refer to some affiliated after-care program to get some more of your money, everyone here is way worse off than I am, I'm not an addict or alcoholic, my issues are different, everyone stays here longer than the minimum unless their parents insist, the rules are stupid, too restrictive, the program is boring, all the other residents are going to check themselves out on their 18th birthday, I can't sleep here ... To give credit where credit is due, he has said the food is good. So, up until a week ago, according to my son, we are overpaying by many thousands of dollars for nice meals, for what is not really a substance problem but a parent problem. He is starting to say some of the right things in family sessions now, but of course, the fear is that they are just faking it till they make it. One of the kids whose parent promised only the minimum stay looked like a glowing example of the program's success in multi-family sessions, until two days after discharge he started up again. I am going to a support group of parents who have alumni kids of the program. Some of the kids are doing well. Some are not. Regardless, all of the parents seem to be healthier by communicating better, maintaining boundaries and caring for themselves. Some parents suggest the kids' success depends on surrendering to the wisdom of the treatment professionals regarding changes needed at home, after-care programs, etc. At this point, that seems like the right answer, but it's difficult to wrap your head around the idea that Residential Treatment Center (RTC) may be just the beginning of sustained treatment attempts rather than the end of the problem. But then I remember Day2 Guy. [/QUOTE]
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