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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 662366" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>So sad. It would be great if he could go to one of those RTCs that are far far away and last until he is 18. They are expensive as heck.</p><p>If this is impossible, I would consider doing your best to shake out the emotion from your soul. We talk about boundaries here. Put a boundary internally. Draw a line internally that helps you stop being angry and hurt.Get to a Families Anonymous meeting. Those folks (the parents) help each other big time. Yes, take the door off his bedroom. Lock up all your stuff. No freakin way to live. But, adopt an attitude like a policeman giving a ticket. Just the facts mam. You broke the law, this is the result. I'm not exactly crying over it. This should be your attitude. Believe me, if he senses that you don't give a rats bottom and are holding the line, this might get his attention AND it is healthier for you. He breaks the law, you call the police. Does he have a cell phone that you pay for? He breaks the law, and you cancel that for a certain period of time....maybe two weeks to a month. Too bad, so sad. Guess what? I don't pay for a cell phone for criminals. Treat him with dignity, but be firm and assertiveness. Remember, a police officer giving a ticket. Try not to be emotional or irrational just the facts. It will suck to be him if he uses and is disrespectful...make sure of it. Down the road if he shows some signs of improvement, consider giving him a weekly allowance if he does a lost of chores and of course is respectful and doesn't use drugs. Might take awhile to get to this point. If he worsens,explore other housing alternatives. Re-read my first sentence about RTCs that last until he is 18. Also, parents at FA might know of local resources.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 662366, member: 4152"] So sad. It would be great if he could go to one of those RTCs that are far far away and last until he is 18. They are expensive as heck. If this is impossible, I would consider doing your best to shake out the emotion from your soul. We talk about boundaries here. Put a boundary internally. Draw a line internally that helps you stop being angry and hurt.Get to a Families Anonymous meeting. Those folks (the parents) help each other big time. Yes, take the door off his bedroom. Lock up all your stuff. No freakin way to live. But, adopt an attitude like a policeman giving a ticket. Just the facts mam. You broke the law, this is the result. I'm not exactly crying over it. This should be your attitude. Believe me, if he senses that you don't give a rats bottom and are holding the line, this might get his attention AND it is healthier for you. He breaks the law, you call the police. Does he have a cell phone that you pay for? He breaks the law, and you cancel that for a certain period of time....maybe two weeks to a month. Too bad, so sad. Guess what? I don't pay for a cell phone for criminals. Treat him with dignity, but be firm and assertiveness. Remember, a police officer giving a ticket. Try not to be emotional or irrational just the facts. It will suck to be him if he uses and is disrespectful...make sure of it. Down the road if he shows some signs of improvement, consider giving him a weekly allowance if he does a lost of chores and of course is respectful and doesn't use drugs. Might take awhile to get to this point. If he worsens,explore other housing alternatives. Re-read my first sentence about RTCs that last until he is 18. Also, parents at FA might know of local resources. [/QUOTE]
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