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<blockquote data-quote="strugglingdad" data-source="post: 687809" data-attributes="member: 18750"><p>I haven't checked in here in a long time, so.....</p><p></p><p>My son caught a second drug charge for pot possession earlier this year. The courts put him on a 6 month deferred sentence/probation with a bunch of "conditions"...community service, group counseling, a 7:30 PM curfew, regular drug testing.</p><p></p><p>Not two weeks after his court date, we heard him take off around midnight. I went looking for him and by the time I got home he was back. Asked where he went, he said "I went to get cigarettes" (which was a lie, he was going to a party with friends). I reminded him that a) leaving the house after curfew and b) tobacco are both violations of his curfew and that we (my wife and I) are obligated to the court to report violations. </p><p></p><p>He lost it. He shattered a TV remote, challenged me to a fight, and was screaming at the top of his lungs at now almost 1:00 AM. I disengaged, went to bed and closed and locked our bedroom door. He came up and started banging on our door wanting me to come out, which there was no way I was doing given his state. He went back downstairs and I heard him throwing things, so I called the police. They came and asked if they could pat him down and he got so verbally abusive with them that they almost had to taze him. Ultimately, they said, of course, that there's nothing they can do unless I file an emergency custody order with the Magistrate to get him removed from the home.</p><p></p><p>So I did. </p><p></p><p>The police came back to carry out the ECO at around 4 AM. He was sleeping on the couch and when they came in and woke him up he was completely calm and offered no resistance. When they searched him they found pot in his pocket and we found out later that he was drunk the whole time. Seeing my not-yet 17 year old son led from my house in handcuffs at my request was almost too much.</p><p></p><p>He went to a hospital for "evaluation" for 5 days and then was discharged. </p><p></p><p>He's not doing the necessary steps to complete the group therapy (like attend AA/NA meetings, etc) and we continue to find drug paraphernalia in the house, but less than before. He's also been bringing alcohol into the house. His report card was straight F's at the semester of his junior year. I don't see how he can graduate at this point and I don't think he really cares. </p><p></p><p>He goes back to court in a few weeks for the third possession charge. He's either going straight to JDC or he's getting an ankle bracelet.</p><p></p><p>13 months until he turns 18.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I went to my first Alanon meeting tonight. I could barely get through my intro without breaking down in tears. Some tough guy I am. If I'd have known this was what being a parent was going to be like, I would never have done it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="strugglingdad, post: 687809, member: 18750"] I haven't checked in here in a long time, so..... My son caught a second drug charge for pot possession earlier this year. The courts put him on a 6 month deferred sentence/probation with a bunch of "conditions"...community service, group counseling, a 7:30 PM curfew, regular drug testing. Not two weeks after his court date, we heard him take off around midnight. I went looking for him and by the time I got home he was back. Asked where he went, he said "I went to get cigarettes" (which was a lie, he was going to a party with friends). I reminded him that a) leaving the house after curfew and b) tobacco are both violations of his curfew and that we (my wife and I) are obligated to the court to report violations. He lost it. He shattered a TV remote, challenged me to a fight, and was screaming at the top of his lungs at now almost 1:00 AM. I disengaged, went to bed and closed and locked our bedroom door. He came up and started banging on our door wanting me to come out, which there was no way I was doing given his state. He went back downstairs and I heard him throwing things, so I called the police. They came and asked if they could pat him down and he got so verbally abusive with them that they almost had to taze him. Ultimately, they said, of course, that there's nothing they can do unless I file an emergency custody order with the Magistrate to get him removed from the home. So I did. The police came back to carry out the ECO at around 4 AM. He was sleeping on the couch and when they came in and woke him up he was completely calm and offered no resistance. When they searched him they found pot in his pocket and we found out later that he was drunk the whole time. Seeing my not-yet 17 year old son led from my house in handcuffs at my request was almost too much. He went to a hospital for "evaluation" for 5 days and then was discharged. He's not doing the necessary steps to complete the group therapy (like attend AA/NA meetings, etc) and we continue to find drug paraphernalia in the house, but less than before. He's also been bringing alcohol into the house. His report card was straight F's at the semester of his junior year. I don't see how he can graduate at this point and I don't think he really cares. He goes back to court in a few weeks for the third possession charge. He's either going straight to JDC or he's getting an ankle bracelet. 13 months until he turns 18. I went to my first Alanon meeting tonight. I could barely get through my intro without breaking down in tears. Some tough guy I am. If I'd have known this was what being a parent was going to be like, I would never have done it. [/QUOTE]
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