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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 687829" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Struggling dad thank you for the update about your life. I am so sorry he is still off the rails.</p><p></p><p>What more could you have done? I think nothing. Between every line that you wrote are the many other things, unwritten, that you have tried and tried and tried.</p><p></p><p>It is always up to them and so sadly, a teenage boy and a young man in his 20s who is off the rails---just like my son was---is a powerful force that cannot be leashed. They are like spinning tornados.</p><p></p><p>During this period (my son is now 26---will be 27 in July) we were just sick with being unable to break through to him. Ultimately, just like you have done, we had to stand back and stand down, and let the tornado spin out and finish on its own. We had to get out of the way.</p><p></p><p>It is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. I have called the police on my son, too, and the anguish is real.</p><p></p><p>I am so glad you went to alanon. What a gift that program turned out to be for me. And at first I resisted much of what I heard. I pray that you keep going back. What the program can do for you is to give you a way forward when there seems to be no way forward for you at all. And ultimately you will find peace, serenity and even joy there, regardless of what he decides to do.</p><p></p><p>We are here for you during all of this. I believe there is always hope and our task is to learn how to let go of people we love so much and want so much for. Their lives are in their hands and it is up to them to start making different choices.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 687829, member: 17542"] Struggling dad thank you for the update about your life. I am so sorry he is still off the rails. What more could you have done? I think nothing. Between every line that you wrote are the many other things, unwritten, that you have tried and tried and tried. It is always up to them and so sadly, a teenage boy and a young man in his 20s who is off the rails---just like my son was---is a powerful force that cannot be leashed. They are like spinning tornados. During this period (my son is now 26---will be 27 in July) we were just sick with being unable to break through to him. Ultimately, just like you have done, we had to stand back and stand down, and let the tornado spin out and finish on its own. We had to get out of the way. It is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. I have called the police on my son, too, and the anguish is real. I am so glad you went to alanon. What a gift that program turned out to be for me. And at first I resisted much of what I heard. I pray that you keep going back. What the program can do for you is to give you a way forward when there seems to be no way forward for you at all. And ultimately you will find peace, serenity and even joy there, regardless of what he decides to do. We are here for you during all of this. I believe there is always hope and our task is to learn how to let go of people we love so much and want so much for. Their lives are in their hands and it is up to them to start making different choices. [/QUOTE]
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