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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 665674" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I think it really helps to remove all the baby and child pictures of the adult who is now still acting like one. </p><p></p><p>We need to remember that she or anyof our kids were once a cute baby, yes, but that the reality is they are 20, 30 and even middle aged 40 year olds and are barely related to their cute young selves. Dont tnink of yhem as "my baby" but as what they are: my man or woman who is expecting us to treat them like they are very young in some ways yet think nothing of disregarding OUR needs, abusing us if we dont pay up and blaming us because of whatever will make us feel guilty. They are gtown men and women who selfishly want us to give, give, give...even if it bankrupts us or makes us sick or killd us.</p><p></p><p>Do they worry about us? Most middle age adults start to do more for and worry about their aging parents. Most of the adulis we worry about on this forum are selfish, not nice, peter pan adults with entitled expectations of us. At 40 it is inexcusable.</p><p></p><p>Stop listening. Set boundaries. Say no money. Disconnect abusive calls. Say "I know you are smart and can do this." Say "I love you enough to not send you money. You are capable." Say "I will talk to u when you are calm. Bye.</p><p></p><p>And take down every baby picture so that you remember she is grown up.</p><p></p><p>It is not healthy for u or her to let her abuse you or to not mske her stsnd on her own.</p><p></p><p>Its hard, but its good for you both.</p><p></p><p>Hugs!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 665674, member: 1550"] I think it really helps to remove all the baby and child pictures of the adult who is now still acting like one. We need to remember that she or anyof our kids were once a cute baby, yes, but that the reality is they are 20, 30 and even middle aged 40 year olds and are barely related to their cute young selves. Dont tnink of yhem as "my baby" but as what they are: my man or woman who is expecting us to treat them like they are very young in some ways yet think nothing of disregarding OUR needs, abusing us if we dont pay up and blaming us because of whatever will make us feel guilty. They are gtown men and women who selfishly want us to give, give, give...even if it bankrupts us or makes us sick or killd us. Do they worry about us? Most middle age adults start to do more for and worry about their aging parents. Most of the adulis we worry about on this forum are selfish, not nice, peter pan adults with entitled expectations of us. At 40 it is inexcusable. Stop listening. Set boundaries. Say no money. Disconnect abusive calls. Say "I know you are smart and can do this." Say "I love you enough to not send you money. You are capable." Say "I will talk to u when you are calm. Bye. And take down every baby picture so that you remember she is grown up. It is not healthy for u or her to let her abuse you or to not mske her stsnd on her own. Its hard, but its good for you both. Hugs! [/QUOTE]
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