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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 325016"><p>Oh, I am so sorry. I have been in a very similar situation and very recently.</p><p>difficult child was super duper duper near homeless very recently.</p><p>However, she pulled something together very very last minute...something really yuck...but, of course, better than homeless.</p><p>And...I NEVER ever considered having her move back in with me.</p><p>I did offer to make a deal with- her. If she agreed to allow a caseworker to help her out every week, I would help her out for the time being to make sure she had a decent roof over her head...but she would NOT go for it.</p><p>So be it.</p><p>It is a horrible feeling.</p><p>But like you said, there is no guilt. We have tried, tried again, tried some more....we can not over parent, over protect, helicopter over these kids. Sure, if they have special needs, we can do a little extra...with- the hope that they will take the ball and run with- it.</p><p>But, even special needs children need to try their best.</p><p>If your adult child wants a roof over his head, he will search around/ask around and find someone to help him out and do what he needs to do (offer to work for someone, clean their house, etc) to get that roof over his head.</p><p>Other people have learned to get by in a decent, respectable way, and there is no reason why our children can not figure this out.</p><p>We all need to try our best. We all need to be appreciative of what is given to us. </p><p>I am so sorry that this has got to hurt your mommy heart.</p><p>Perhaps you can give him a list of social services, give him a few ideas....but as best as you can...detach 'cause it really is up to him.</p><p>Sure, he might have to move into a dump (very likely) but so be it!</p><p>The SSI will be a blessing down the road.</p><p>Please take extra good care of yourself.</p><p>(Hugs)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 325016"] Oh, I am so sorry. I have been in a very similar situation and very recently. difficult child was super duper duper near homeless very recently. However, she pulled something together very very last minute...something really yuck...but, of course, better than homeless. And...I NEVER ever considered having her move back in with me. I did offer to make a deal with- her. If she agreed to allow a caseworker to help her out every week, I would help her out for the time being to make sure she had a decent roof over her head...but she would NOT go for it. So be it. It is a horrible feeling. But like you said, there is no guilt. We have tried, tried again, tried some more....we can not over parent, over protect, helicopter over these kids. Sure, if they have special needs, we can do a little extra...with- the hope that they will take the ball and run with- it. But, even special needs children need to try their best. If your adult child wants a roof over his head, he will search around/ask around and find someone to help him out and do what he needs to do (offer to work for someone, clean their house, etc) to get that roof over his head. Other people have learned to get by in a decent, respectable way, and there is no reason why our children can not figure this out. We all need to try our best. We all need to be appreciative of what is given to us. I am so sorry that this has got to hurt your mommy heart. Perhaps you can give him a list of social services, give him a few ideas....but as best as you can...detach 'cause it really is up to him. Sure, he might have to move into a dump (very likely) but so be it! The SSI will be a blessing down the road. Please take extra good care of yourself. (Hugs) [/QUOTE]
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