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<blockquote data-quote="kennedyland" data-source="post: 592670" data-attributes="member: 16133"><p>You sound like I did thirteen years ago when I first learned my son was doing drugs. I urge you to get counseling today. You need counseling for yourself and a plan for how to deal with this situation. Since he is 18 you may be limited in what you can do to resolve this issue. </p><p></p><p>Two things need to be realized. First, the decision to stop doing drugs is his choice. Second, it is up to you to choose how to respond to that choice. My son was 15 when we learned of his drug use. We put him in a hospital program (twice), halfway homes, a sober high school, and personal counseling. It cost thousands of dollars. All the money I'd saved for college was gone before he was 18. None of this worked because of one basic limitation -he didn't want to get sober. When he was in the sober high school he got some of the best drugs he ever had from his fellow students. When in a group counseling session all the teens in the group were going to the bathroom, one at a time, and snorting cocaine. When he failed a urine test he said, "When I turn 18 I'm going to do whatever I want and you can't stop me." Sadly, he was right. He had a ton of education on drug rehabilitation, he chose-and continues to chose- to ignore it. </p><p></p><p>So what can you do? The answer isn't one you will want to hear, but it is very necessary. Kick him out. No money, no car, no home. Until he concludes that it is better to give up this "totally safe, non addictive, and all natural" drug, demonstrate tough love. Do it today. I also live in Minnesota. If you'd like to talk, send me a private message with your email and we'll discuss this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="kennedyland, post: 592670, member: 16133"] You sound like I did thirteen years ago when I first learned my son was doing drugs. I urge you to get counseling today. You need counseling for yourself and a plan for how to deal with this situation. Since he is 18 you may be limited in what you can do to resolve this issue. Two things need to be realized. First, the decision to stop doing drugs is his choice. Second, it is up to you to choose how to respond to that choice. My son was 15 when we learned of his drug use. We put him in a hospital program (twice), halfway homes, a sober high school, and personal counseling. It cost thousands of dollars. All the money I'd saved for college was gone before he was 18. None of this worked because of one basic limitation -he didn't want to get sober. When he was in the sober high school he got some of the best drugs he ever had from his fellow students. When in a group counseling session all the teens in the group were going to the bathroom, one at a time, and snorting cocaine. When he failed a urine test he said, "When I turn 18 I'm going to do whatever I want and you can't stop me." Sadly, he was right. He had a ton of education on drug rehabilitation, he chose-and continues to chose- to ignore it. So what can you do? The answer isn't one you will want to hear, but it is very necessary. Kick him out. No money, no car, no home. Until he concludes that it is better to give up this "totally safe, non addictive, and all natural" drug, demonstrate tough love. Do it today. I also live in Minnesota. If you'd like to talk, send me a private message with your email and we'll discuss this. [/QUOTE]
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