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<blockquote data-quote="Josie" data-source="post: 370971" data-attributes="member: 1792"><p>I have had this problem with my mother in law favoring one of my girls over the other. Very blatant, even after we have explicitly said she must do the same for both. husband has had more than one conversation with her about this, and I think she may have gotten better. But, we don't see them very often, and I do my best to control the situation so it can't happen.</p><p></p><p>I will not use her as a babysitter anymore when we travel because I don't trust her to treat them the same when we are not there. I will not let her take them shopping any more without a dollar limit set. </p><p></p><p>Now that I think about it, she hasn't gotten better, there just haven't been any opportunities for her to do anything recently. When I set a dollar limit for birthday shopping for one girl, she spent that and then bought some other things that "were not part of the birthday gift". For just that girl. The other one was not included in this trip and didn't get a shopping trip then or later.</p><p></p><p>If my daughter notices the favoritism, she hasn't made it clear. In the end, my mother in law will pay the price of not having a good relationship with her. I am trying to protect her from the worst of it, but there is only so much we can do.</p><p></p><p>I think your husband should be the one to talk to them, but in our case, it didn't really do much good.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Josie, post: 370971, member: 1792"] I have had this problem with my mother in law favoring one of my girls over the other. Very blatant, even after we have explicitly said she must do the same for both. husband has had more than one conversation with her about this, and I think she may have gotten better. But, we don't see them very often, and I do my best to control the situation so it can't happen. I will not use her as a babysitter anymore when we travel because I don't trust her to treat them the same when we are not there. I will not let her take them shopping any more without a dollar limit set. Now that I think about it, she hasn't gotten better, there just haven't been any opportunities for her to do anything recently. When I set a dollar limit for birthday shopping for one girl, she spent that and then bought some other things that "were not part of the birthday gift". For just that girl. The other one was not included in this trip and didn't get a shopping trip then or later. If my daughter notices the favoritism, she hasn't made it clear. In the end, my mother in law will pay the price of not having a good relationship with her. I am trying to protect her from the worst of it, but there is only so much we can do. I think your husband should be the one to talk to them, but in our case, it didn't really do much good. [/QUOTE]
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