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<blockquote data-quote="joneshockey" data-source="post: 371004"><p>Sorry to hear that you are having so many issues with the grandparents. My inlaws are a lot like yours it sound like, except they are tactful at thier spoilings - They buy and buys and buys for my sisterlaws 2 kids, but hardly ever buy things for my 2 boys... I always hear about these giving of gift second hand weather from my sisterinlaw herself or the kids when I talk to them. When I say "tactfully" I mean theya re given to them on the side when know one else is around. My main issue with- both my parents and my inlaws are how they show favoritism between the kids. When my sisterinlaw comes into town for visits my inlaws take them all sorts of places (the museum, movies, chuck e cheese, you name it) and we NEVER get invited to go with them or anything. We live in the same town as the inlaws and I swear they see my sisterinlaws kids MORE (even though they live out of state) than they see mine. We often call and try to arrange visits, but my motherinlaw always seems to have some excuse (mostly that she is too tired). They just don't seem to have any interest in being a part of my kids daily/weekly lives. Sure we get together on holidays and birthdays, but never at any other time. As for my parents - My Mom severely has 1st grandchild syndrome. She has B1 up on this pedistal and he can do no wrong. He gets invited to go places with- her (like up to the cabin for weekends or to have sleepovers) when B2 has only stayed overnight 1 night in almost 4 years and that was only because FF1 had surgery that day. I even overheard her telling my Dad once that they would probably never take B2 to the cabin with-o me because of his behavior (which by the way wasn't that bad at the time because his medications had already started to work well)! B2 is now etting to the age where he is starting to notice the favoritism. He often asks me why he can't go ___ with- grandma. I am almost to the point of not allowing her to take B1 without alternating between the 2 boys. I am lucky however with the spending aspect of things though. She has always been straight 50/50 on everything even we I was growing up @ x-mas time both my sister and I knew we got X number of $ so we may or may not have the same number of gifts because of the cost factor. I would definately have your husband say something to the inlaws because difficult child will only continue to get more resentful as she gets older if you don't put a stop to it now!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="joneshockey, post: 371004"] Sorry to hear that you are having so many issues with the grandparents. My inlaws are a lot like yours it sound like, except they are tactful at thier spoilings - They buy and buys and buys for my sisterlaws 2 kids, but hardly ever buy things for my 2 boys... I always hear about these giving of gift second hand weather from my sisterinlaw herself or the kids when I talk to them. When I say "tactfully" I mean theya re given to them on the side when know one else is around. My main issue with- both my parents and my inlaws are how they show favoritism between the kids. When my sisterinlaw comes into town for visits my inlaws take them all sorts of places (the museum, movies, chuck e cheese, you name it) and we NEVER get invited to go with them or anything. We live in the same town as the inlaws and I swear they see my sisterinlaws kids MORE (even though they live out of state) than they see mine. We often call and try to arrange visits, but my motherinlaw always seems to have some excuse (mostly that she is too tired). They just don't seem to have any interest in being a part of my kids daily/weekly lives. Sure we get together on holidays and birthdays, but never at any other time. As for my parents - My Mom severely has 1st grandchild syndrome. She has B1 up on this pedistal and he can do no wrong. He gets invited to go places with- her (like up to the cabin for weekends or to have sleepovers) when B2 has only stayed overnight 1 night in almost 4 years and that was only because FF1 had surgery that day. I even overheard her telling my Dad once that they would probably never take B2 to the cabin with-o me because of his behavior (which by the way wasn't that bad at the time because his medications had already started to work well)! B2 is now etting to the age where he is starting to notice the favoritism. He often asks me why he can't go ___ with- grandma. I am almost to the point of not allowing her to take B1 without alternating between the 2 boys. I am lucky however with the spending aspect of things though. She has always been straight 50/50 on everything even we I was growing up @ x-mas time both my sister and I knew we got X number of $ so we may or may not have the same number of gifts because of the cost factor. I would definately have your husband say something to the inlaws because difficult child will only continue to get more resentful as she gets older if you don't put a stop to it now! [/QUOTE]
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