Thank you, SWOT. You remember, I know, that sometimes I have had my doubts. Still, sometimes I do, just not as much.
I am beginning to think this is healthy, because how great would any relationship be if it was frozen into some kind of solid, yes, like a block of mixed vegetables. Do not we want some movement, possibility, and even, doubt, so that we can reaffirm our yes? Is not the possibility of no, necessary for there to be a very strong yes?
I do not think it is simple to know to stay or leave. We may not see at the time that leaving is not necessarily better. It can be but not always.
By the way, Pigless, if your husband is quite depressed, it may not be easy for him to talk about it.
M had to endure me in bed for 2 years following the death of my mother. I would not even eat meals out of bed. Now almost 3 years after, I am still hobbling. I may never regain my former self. I doubt I will. It could be that M stays with me for ulterior motives or secondary gain, but it may be he is committed.
Pigless, M gets angry too, but does not hold onto it. But oh my, it is unpleasant when he is angry. Cold, sarcastic, smouldering fury.
We take those we love as they are or not at all. If they change it will be when they can, or not at all.
