Nomad, my husband and I went to counseling a few times, everything from learning how to fight productively and fairly, to general venting either together or separately. We went through extensive individual and couples therapy when Stu was medical-ed out of the Army, as he had PTSD and was carrying a lot of guilt because the brainwashing the military does to teach its soldiers that the enemy aren't people, didn't take in his case. In all honestly, I think every couple thinking of making a permanent commitment to each other should undergo couples counseling before making that commitment.
