I am not sure everyone should be forced to attend premarital counseling. Not all therapists are equally good and not all people will listen to advice.
I haven't however had bad experiences much with mental health caregivers. They definitely helped me a lot in becoming the person I wanted to be. Without help, I would not have reached such a high level of happiness, contentment with who I am and I doubt I'd even be alive. I was very suicidal. A gifted psychiatrist found the right medication for my depressions and the right therapists and self help books and group therapies made me able to be strong. I started out a mess...a typical d c minus drug abuse, but I was eager to help myself. I let others guide me.
Trust me, I had a few loser therapists along the way. I fired them quickly and found helpful ones. In the process I became a lay advocate for other mentally ill who were too shy or beaten to help themselves. I always had that desire to be a better me, but I was unable to figure out how to do it alone. So I actually love the mental health community. A few times my husband has come with me to stabilize issues we had but he doesn't have mental health issues. He goes if I ask him to please come with...for me.
I haven't had doctors try to rip me off either. If I think a doctor isn't up to snuff or has a bad attitude, I find another one. I've never ever experienced the gall you did from your doctor, Cop a. I'd fight that any way I could.
Anyway, I do not think everyone should make it work. Abuse is not okay. Cheating is not okay. I have my 'honey don't" list! With kids at home, I let more things slide. But not now
Just my worthless .02.
