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<blockquote data-quote="OpenWindow" data-source="post: 163778" data-attributes="member: 45"><p>The girl is 8. We don't think she was an active participant but we can't be sure. She's usually very independent and defiant and does what she wants, so her reaction to his "request" was very out of character (despite his threat), but then the situation she was faced with isn't an everyday situation either. I don't believe she thought it was OK, because she immediately told me what had happened. </p><p></p><p>His reaction is to just not admit to anything, no matter what. His disability puts his emotional age at 3-4 years younger than he really is, so that adds another layer to the situation. </p><p></p><p>I don't know why I feel like I have to defend this, but... his movies, games etc. were already strictly limited with some exceptions after the movie or game was reviewed by an adult. Now, anything that's PG he can't watch, unless we've seen it before and know it's beyond OK. He can only watch certain channels - nick, discovery, etc. He can't watch movies or play on the xbox unsupervised. He can't go on the computer unless an adult is present, in the room. What I'm saying is what was very limited before is now severely limited.</p><p></p><p>I'm on the side of talking to his counselor, but I am nervous about the CPS involvement. You never know what's going to happen with that - will they understand that he has issues or will they just take him away and put him in a home where he'll get no help or worse. Will it cause him more damage than good?</p><p></p><p>I don't think mandatory counseling for him is a bad thing, in fact I think he needs it. I'm not sure for her, though. Bringing it up over and over IF it was an isolated incident could possibly do more harm than good. Not with a good counselor of course, but how do we know it will be a good counselor? We've talked with her about it, made sure she knows what to do next time, made sure she knows she can talk to us about it anytime, and will continue to empower her to not be a victim.</p><p></p><p>I grew up in an abusive home with a family who kept it a secret and refused to talk about it. I know the damage that can cause. That is not the situation here.</p><p></p><p>Other adults in this situation, don't agree with me. They think it's a one-time incident we should just handle ourselves. So I thought I'd ask here to get your take.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="OpenWindow, post: 163778, member: 45"] The girl is 8. We don't think she was an active participant but we can't be sure. She's usually very independent and defiant and does what she wants, so her reaction to his "request" was very out of character (despite his threat), but then the situation she was faced with isn't an everyday situation either. I don't believe she thought it was OK, because she immediately told me what had happened. His reaction is to just not admit to anything, no matter what. His disability puts his emotional age at 3-4 years younger than he really is, so that adds another layer to the situation. I don't know why I feel like I have to defend this, but... his movies, games etc. were already strictly limited with some exceptions after the movie or game was reviewed by an adult. Now, anything that's PG he can't watch, unless we've seen it before and know it's beyond OK. He can only watch certain channels - nick, discovery, etc. He can't watch movies or play on the xbox unsupervised. He can't go on the computer unless an adult is present, in the room. What I'm saying is what was very limited before is now severely limited. I'm on the side of talking to his counselor, but I am nervous about the CPS involvement. You never know what's going to happen with that - will they understand that he has issues or will they just take him away and put him in a home where he'll get no help or worse. Will it cause him more damage than good? I don't think mandatory counseling for him is a bad thing, in fact I think he needs it. I'm not sure for her, though. Bringing it up over and over IF it was an isolated incident could possibly do more harm than good. Not with a good counselor of course, but how do we know it will be a good counselor? We've talked with her about it, made sure she knows what to do next time, made sure she knows she can talk to us about it anytime, and will continue to empower her to not be a victim. I grew up in an abusive home with a family who kept it a secret and refused to talk about it. I know the damage that can cause. That is not the situation here. Other adults in this situation, don't agree with me. They think it's a one-time incident we should just handle ourselves. So I thought I'd ask here to get your take. [/QUOTE]
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