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<blockquote data-quote="gcvmom" data-source="post: 311209" data-attributes="member: 3444"><p>We get the "I'm bored" line when things are rocky, too. I think SW's question about medications being either correct, or correctly dosed is important to consider.</p><p> </p><p>The poor functioning at home CAN impact school when it comes to homework completion -- at least that's been the case for us. I've had to email teachers when difficult child 2 is falling apart at home so they know why he cannot complete an assignment on time. I did that this past week, and his social studies teacher affirmed she was seeing similar problems with him in the classroom. If he doesn't already have some built-in leeway for assignment due dates, I think I'd be asking for that as part of a safety net. Do you know what the issue is with his science grade?</p><p> </p><p>I wouldn't necessarily be trying to fill his every idle hour with structured activities. Everyone needs some down time. His sense of boredom is probably coming from some kind of internal restlessness that's tied to the illness. </p><p> </p><p>I wouldn't give up on the chore issue, because everyone needs to have some personal responsibilities. If he's feeling that he's being given too many chores, maybe try having him choose one or two from a list to accomplish each weekend. Or maybe a job jar to pick from? Gives him a sense of control, which is often something I think our difficult child's struggle with. So much of their life feels so out of control. What I usually say to my kids is that I am only one person, and I cannot do everything that needs to get done around our house all by myself. I need their help, so WHAT can they help me by doing?</p><p> </p><p>Maybe a therapeutic school would help Badger, but I'm not sure how you could get that covered either, especially if the school isn't having any issues with him. I'm not surprised that he can hold it together just fine until he gets home. My husband held things together fine (for the most part) at work and then exploded at home (he's much better now, thanks!) I think that's very typical of our kids. Perhaps his therapist can work on family therapy with Badger to address the interpersonal issues that arise from his meltdowns at home. </p><p> </p><p>Did you say you've read The Explosive Child?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gcvmom, post: 311209, member: 3444"] We get the "I'm bored" line when things are rocky, too. I think SW's question about medications being either correct, or correctly dosed is important to consider. The poor functioning at home CAN impact school when it comes to homework completion -- at least that's been the case for us. I've had to email teachers when difficult child 2 is falling apart at home so they know why he cannot complete an assignment on time. I did that this past week, and his social studies teacher affirmed she was seeing similar problems with him in the classroom. If he doesn't already have some built-in leeway for assignment due dates, I think I'd be asking for that as part of a safety net. Do you know what the issue is with his science grade? I wouldn't necessarily be trying to fill his every idle hour with structured activities. Everyone needs some down time. His sense of boredom is probably coming from some kind of internal restlessness that's tied to the illness. I wouldn't give up on the chore issue, because everyone needs to have some personal responsibilities. If he's feeling that he's being given too many chores, maybe try having him choose one or two from a list to accomplish each weekend. Or maybe a job jar to pick from? Gives him a sense of control, which is often something I think our difficult child's struggle with. So much of their life feels so out of control. What I usually say to my kids is that I am only one person, and I cannot do everything that needs to get done around our house all by myself. I need their help, so WHAT can they help me by doing? Maybe a therapeutic school would help Badger, but I'm not sure how you could get that covered either, especially if the school isn't having any issues with him. I'm not surprised that he can hold it together just fine until he gets home. My husband held things together fine (for the most part) at work and then exploded at home (he's much better now, thanks!) I think that's very typical of our kids. Perhaps his therapist can work on family therapy with Badger to address the interpersonal issues that arise from his meltdowns at home. Did you say you've read The Explosive Child? [/QUOTE]
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