obviously there isn't a sure fire way to know anything. but I believe that a kids life will go in the direction they choose for it to go. influencing it with love and concern, as the best of parents do, is important. My mother talked to me about being conscious with my decisions, and without her loving concern and logical discipline, I wouldn't be honest with her and I probably would have tried other drugs. if I can lead a productive life, the leash loosens. if grades slip or stealing becomes an issue, the noose tightens. it's next to impossible to get a teenager to be completely honest, but the closer you get the better. I think letting your kid chase the dream was the best thing to do, although admittedly ive never been a parent. I think that because if they still want to chase that dream, efforts to change the dream will likely be in vain.