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<blockquote data-quote="mstang67chic" data-source="post: 99508" data-attributes="member: 2459"><p>Mini update: husband talked to difficult child after he got home from work. difficult child of course tried to either shift all blame to others or deny things. No big surprise there.</p><p></p><p>Grandma called difficult child back and talked to husband and I first. During the conversation she mentioned that she keeps her distance out of fear of saying the wrong thing to difficult child or making things worse. To that I had two responses. #1 was that as for tonight, unless she told difficult child to pack his bags, she was on her way to wisk him away to her house where he could live rule free and receive everything his grubby little heart desires......it would be the wrong thing and not to worry about it.</p><p></p><p>The other thing I told her was that I think it would be good for him to talk to her more. He has the thickest pair of rose colored glasses where his bio family is concerned. I think it would do him good to hear from bio-G'ma that we (husband and I) as parents are doing the same things every other parents do. We're not expecting the impossible from him and there's nothing wrong with our parenting. (She is right there with us fortunately!) I think he needs to hear from someone in his bio family that things wouldn't be any different in her/their house than it is here as for rules, expectations, etc. On a slight side note, she gave me an update on difficult child's bio mom. (We never knew any of these people until we adopted difficult child and husband and I have never met bio mom) BM recently commented to G'ma (her mother) that a couple of her kids were now 18 and she was curious to see how long it took them to seek her out. (AT the time we got difficult child, BM had had 4 kids and didn't have custody of any of them. She has since had another one who is now 7 and still lives with BM) G'ma asked her if she really wanted them to seeing as how she's in and out of jail/work release, drinking/drugging and living in a hovel with a man who's done nothing other than contribute DNA to the latest child. She told her that she should really concentrate on getting her life together and doing right by herself before she subjects her kids to that stuff more than she has before she lost her rights. I had to chuckle at that. Apparently, G'ma is now on BM's **it list. I told G'ma that it seems like we're both controlling and overbearing and that we should get t-shirts. :devil:</p><p></p><p>So anywhoo, difficult child was on the phone with G'ma for quite awhile but in the other room so I wasn't able to hear any of the conversation. He seemed to be in a better mood when he came out. We'll see.</p><p></p><p>P.S. difficult child's case worker was going to ask about the book at school. I asked her to see if difficult child could work off the cost himself by doing things at the school. Even if we have to fork out $$, I still would love to see him get his hands dirty.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mstang67chic, post: 99508, member: 2459"] Mini update: husband talked to difficult child after he got home from work. difficult child of course tried to either shift all blame to others or deny things. No big surprise there. Grandma called difficult child back and talked to husband and I first. During the conversation she mentioned that she keeps her distance out of fear of saying the wrong thing to difficult child or making things worse. To that I had two responses. #1 was that as for tonight, unless she told difficult child to pack his bags, she was on her way to wisk him away to her house where he could live rule free and receive everything his grubby little heart desires......it would be the wrong thing and not to worry about it. The other thing I told her was that I think it would be good for him to talk to her more. He has the thickest pair of rose colored glasses where his bio family is concerned. I think it would do him good to hear from bio-G'ma that we (husband and I) as parents are doing the same things every other parents do. We're not expecting the impossible from him and there's nothing wrong with our parenting. (She is right there with us fortunately!) I think he needs to hear from someone in his bio family that things wouldn't be any different in her/their house than it is here as for rules, expectations, etc. On a slight side note, she gave me an update on difficult child's bio mom. (We never knew any of these people until we adopted difficult child and husband and I have never met bio mom) BM recently commented to G'ma (her mother) that a couple of her kids were now 18 and she was curious to see how long it took them to seek her out. (AT the time we got difficult child, BM had had 4 kids and didn't have custody of any of them. She has since had another one who is now 7 and still lives with BM) G'ma asked her if she really wanted them to seeing as how she's in and out of jail/work release, drinking/drugging and living in a hovel with a man who's done nothing other than contribute DNA to the latest child. She told her that she should really concentrate on getting her life together and doing right by herself before she subjects her kids to that stuff more than she has before she lost her rights. I had to chuckle at that. Apparently, G'ma is now on BM's **it list. I told G'ma that it seems like we're both controlling and overbearing and that we should get t-shirts. [img]:devil:[/img] So anywhoo, difficult child was on the phone with G'ma for quite awhile but in the other room so I wasn't able to hear any of the conversation. He seemed to be in a better mood when he came out. We'll see. P.S. difficult child's case worker was going to ask about the book at school. I asked her to see if difficult child could work off the cost himself by doing things at the school. Even if we have to fork out $$, I still would love to see him get his hands dirty. [/QUOTE]
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