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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 384551" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>That isn't what bothered me about this situation- it's the fact that I was led to believe three different scenarios/conditions. This was just one of the three. None of the three are "wrong" but to give three is- in my book at least.</p><p></p><p>I am treading carefully, no doubt. But since the "customer" (for lack of better term) works with us as well as representing the persons signing the contract, he is the one I am supposed to make happy- according to my employer. That is what my employer is paranoid about, ultimately. </p><p></p><p>But I think I know what happened. My boss changed his approach to me the few days we didn't have much contact- after I told him I would take the job then talked to him on the phone a few days later about actually moving date and so forth. When I got here, I found out that a person that works for the same company as us that had a similar position in it but somewhat lower, had been moved into a position where he would be working with us. I think the company decided that if "one of their own" wanted to get into this group, they would be fine with that. My boss had told me at the interview that they were going to hire two people and one would probably move into a higher position when their contract went thru again next year. He couoldn't guarantee the contract but thought it would be extended. He told me at first I would be that person because I had more credentials. Since that few days of lag time though, after getting here and finding this guy who was already with the company is taking the other open position, I now think they changed gears and want him to be the one to stay on and go to a higher position when the contract is extended. Not that it's anything personal against me, just that I can tell the tone from this company has changed and I can see where they would be more comfortable with someone who has worked with them a few years already.</p><p></p><p>But, on the other hand, the people this company is contracted out to has this rep that I have been referring to. He works directly with my/my bosses group 24/7 and in the same location. He has more experience in this field and will have a lot of input on this upcomeing contract and many others related to it. I didn't ask to work with him directly- he told my boss that he wanted me to when things were slow in the area my boss has management of. First, this company that hired me says I HAVE to meet this guys expectations. OK- then would I say NO, I don't want to work with him on occasion? Second, this company needs this contract renewed. If this guy wants to spend time training me and working with me for things that will benefit the contract getting extended, why would I or my boss discourage that? Then, it appears to me that if this is what's going on, boss and company might not look so good to push for the other guy they just moved into this group to move into something better with them next year. But if they do anyway, I could use the rep from the "customer' as a reference to get in with the bigger group of people who have the contract with this company. That's my goal anyway if things don't work out with this company.</p><p></p><p>As far as my boss's paranoia- oh yeah- that has become clear. Either paranoia or trying to find an excuse not to stick to all the illusions he gave me about potential with the company since this other guy decided he wanted to move into this group. It might be a combination. But that will work itself out, I think. As an example, I came here last weekend. I got here Friday evening after one heck of a week. We talked on the phone that evening and he said He could meet me at 9:00-9:30 am Sat morning to show me apts. Well, this was about 8:00pm Fri and I was dead tired. I had hauled stuff, moved stuff, driven, and just given up my home. I told him that I would try but I sure wouldn't look my best because it had been a long day and right then I just had an old pair of jeans and T-shirt on and my nicer clothes were slid into the very back of the trunk of my car. He responded with "oh, you know you need to dress professionally at work- they expect that". Yes, I know. (I didn't say it but I knew I had dressed professionally and appropriately for the interview.) So, I didn't make it Sat at 9:00 am but did make it at about 10:30am- showered, with makeup on and casual slacks/top. I had interpreted what he said to mean he was a person that never wore jeans and didn't want to see any professional in them. What does he wear? A pair of shorts and T-shirt. His wife had on jeans and a casual top.</p><p></p><p>Fri, he wore jeans to work and tells me earlier in the week that I need to tone down the nice clothes when I go on certain trips and wear something more comfortable. The guy's nails are bitten to the quick. He jumps the4 gun and over-reacts when the customer's rep says the least little thing. I think the rep sees this, too. </p><p></p><p>My tremors are not the result of panic. But they do get worse if I'm under stress or haven't eaten regularly. Still, I can function with that. When it gets to a point that it interferes with functioning is if during those stressfull times, someone is standing over my shoulder- or I percieve that someone is breathing down my neck or holding an axe over my head at those worst moments. This is some people's way of managing employees, I know. But they ought to wise up- it isn't very effective. You can't bash tremors out of someone. I think my boss will figure that out pretty quickly now that i see the rep already knew it and didn't hold it against me. And the reassurance the rep has given me- not about job security but about wanting to work with me, has made me a lot more at ease which reduces the tremors a lot automatically. And now that I'm getting settled in a place and can eat better that helps too.</p><p></p><p>So in my mind, it is my boss that has the bigger anxiety issues. Look at how far he went with this instead of just being diligent and giving it a chance.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 384551, member: 3699"] That isn't what bothered me about this situation- it's the fact that I was led to believe three different scenarios/conditions. This was just one of the three. None of the three are "wrong" but to give three is- in my book at least. I am treading carefully, no doubt. But since the "customer" (for lack of better term) works with us as well as representing the persons signing the contract, he is the one I am supposed to make happy- according to my employer. That is what my employer is paranoid about, ultimately. But I think I know what happened. My boss changed his approach to me the few days we didn't have much contact- after I told him I would take the job then talked to him on the phone a few days later about actually moving date and so forth. When I got here, I found out that a person that works for the same company as us that had a similar position in it but somewhat lower, had been moved into a position where he would be working with us. I think the company decided that if "one of their own" wanted to get into this group, they would be fine with that. My boss had told me at the interview that they were going to hire two people and one would probably move into a higher position when their contract went thru again next year. He couoldn't guarantee the contract but thought it would be extended. He told me at first I would be that person because I had more credentials. Since that few days of lag time though, after getting here and finding this guy who was already with the company is taking the other open position, I now think they changed gears and want him to be the one to stay on and go to a higher position when the contract is extended. Not that it's anything personal against me, just that I can tell the tone from this company has changed and I can see where they would be more comfortable with someone who has worked with them a few years already. But, on the other hand, the people this company is contracted out to has this rep that I have been referring to. He works directly with my/my bosses group 24/7 and in the same location. He has more experience in this field and will have a lot of input on this upcomeing contract and many others related to it. I didn't ask to work with him directly- he told my boss that he wanted me to when things were slow in the area my boss has management of. First, this company that hired me says I HAVE to meet this guys expectations. OK- then would I say NO, I don't want to work with him on occasion? Second, this company needs this contract renewed. If this guy wants to spend time training me and working with me for things that will benefit the contract getting extended, why would I or my boss discourage that? Then, it appears to me that if this is what's going on, boss and company might not look so good to push for the other guy they just moved into this group to move into something better with them next year. But if they do anyway, I could use the rep from the "customer' as a reference to get in with the bigger group of people who have the contract with this company. That's my goal anyway if things don't work out with this company. As far as my boss's paranoia- oh yeah- that has become clear. Either paranoia or trying to find an excuse not to stick to all the illusions he gave me about potential with the company since this other guy decided he wanted to move into this group. It might be a combination. But that will work itself out, I think. As an example, I came here last weekend. I got here Friday evening after one heck of a week. We talked on the phone that evening and he said He could meet me at 9:00-9:30 am Sat morning to show me apts. Well, this was about 8:00pm Fri and I was dead tired. I had hauled stuff, moved stuff, driven, and just given up my home. I told him that I would try but I sure wouldn't look my best because it had been a long day and right then I just had an old pair of jeans and T-shirt on and my nicer clothes were slid into the very back of the trunk of my car. He responded with "oh, you know you need to dress professionally at work- they expect that". Yes, I know. (I didn't say it but I knew I had dressed professionally and appropriately for the interview.) So, I didn't make it Sat at 9:00 am but did make it at about 10:30am- showered, with makeup on and casual slacks/top. I had interpreted what he said to mean he was a person that never wore jeans and didn't want to see any professional in them. What does he wear? A pair of shorts and T-shirt. His wife had on jeans and a casual top. Fri, he wore jeans to work and tells me earlier in the week that I need to tone down the nice clothes when I go on certain trips and wear something more comfortable. The guy's nails are bitten to the quick. He jumps the4 gun and over-reacts when the customer's rep says the least little thing. I think the rep sees this, too. My tremors are not the result of panic. But they do get worse if I'm under stress or haven't eaten regularly. Still, I can function with that. When it gets to a point that it interferes with functioning is if during those stressfull times, someone is standing over my shoulder- or I percieve that someone is breathing down my neck or holding an axe over my head at those worst moments. This is some people's way of managing employees, I know. But they ought to wise up- it isn't very effective. You can't bash tremors out of someone. I think my boss will figure that out pretty quickly now that i see the rep already knew it and didn't hold it against me. And the reassurance the rep has given me- not about job security but about wanting to work with me, has made me a lot more at ease which reduces the tremors a lot automatically. And now that I'm getting settled in a place and can eat better that helps too. So in my mind, it is my boss that has the bigger anxiety issues. Look at how far he went with this instead of just being diligent and giving it a chance. [/QUOTE]
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