Hey LR......I can relate to you as I'm sure most of the mothers on this forum can. I had to call 911 on my difficult child over 2 weeks ago. He became violent, not hitting me, but enough unpredictable behavior that I felt frightened. Even though I have been on this ride for more years than I like to think of, it was devastating to me. He stayed in jail 2 weeks and has been in a hotel for a few days. He let me know that he had gone back to AA and had picked up another white chip....but that is his responsibility, not mine. I decided to go to a therapist and take care of me. This last episode was it for me. I finally am done. You will have to reach that decision.....when you have had enough and realize you have a right to a happy, peaceful life. I would suggest Alanon where you will find support and meet people who understand what you are going through because they have been through the same thing. Hugs to you.