Kim, at the top go to "Parents Support Forums," then "Parents Emeritus," then "Post New Thread."
That is very frustrating, that she will not take her medication. Sometimes to someone with bipolar disorder the "high" of a manic episode is so intoxicating that the "low" is worth tolerating, rather than taking medication that smooths things out. My own difficult child will put many other things in his body to "adjust" his mood but does not trust anything that is prescribed for him.
I think NAMI is a great place to start too, to get some support for YOU.