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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 373027" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>I had to chuckle about mating. My difficult child used those same words. We had very frank discussions about behavior that is public and private. Private is behind a door to his room or his bathroom and NO where else. We talked about dating in the future and what appropriate behavior looked like and why. I got him age appropriate books so he knew what was going on with his own body. He poured over them for years. </p><p>I was very concerned about sexual appropriateness. He did not need that albatross around his neck as he had plenty others. He also, is delightful, articulate, outgoing and you would be hard pressed to notice the first 3 minutes of a conversation but by 10 min. you are pretty sure that there is a bit of a disconnect. </p><p>I was clear about what society's rules are for appropriate behavior. Biting isn't one of them that's for sure. It's never a quick fix to redirect their behavior to something smacking on appropriate but you have to repeat and repeat. Good luck. Temple Grandin and her mother were very instrumental in how I worked with my son. Temple was made to have table manners just like her siblings. She didn't care for them but she learned it was appropriate. So she did it and then it became ingrained as normal behavior. </p><p>I used difficult child's peer group as a way to nudge difficult child along to age appropriate behavior. He got nudged to the point where he was able to function and pretend to have behaviors like the n/t's kids. </p><p>It's scary and worrisome but I'm here to tell you that I was also terrified and my difficult child has not had the police called on him yet.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 373027, member: 3"] I had to chuckle about mating. My difficult child used those same words. We had very frank discussions about behavior that is public and private. Private is behind a door to his room or his bathroom and NO where else. We talked about dating in the future and what appropriate behavior looked like and why. I got him age appropriate books so he knew what was going on with his own body. He poured over them for years. I was very concerned about sexual appropriateness. He did not need that albatross around his neck as he had plenty others. He also, is delightful, articulate, outgoing and you would be hard pressed to notice the first 3 minutes of a conversation but by 10 min. you are pretty sure that there is a bit of a disconnect. I was clear about what society's rules are for appropriate behavior. Biting isn't one of them that's for sure. It's never a quick fix to redirect their behavior to something smacking on appropriate but you have to repeat and repeat. Good luck. Temple Grandin and her mother were very instrumental in how I worked with my son. Temple was made to have table manners just like her siblings. She didn't care for them but she learned it was appropriate. So she did it and then it became ingrained as normal behavior. I used difficult child's peer group as a way to nudge difficult child along to age appropriate behavior. He got nudged to the point where he was able to function and pretend to have behaviors like the n/t's kids. It's scary and worrisome but I'm here to tell you that I was also terrified and my difficult child has not had the police called on him yet. [/QUOTE]
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