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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 391740" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>CQ - welcome!</p><p> </p><p>First of all, lots of hugs. I know it's not easy, especially when you have problems with XH.</p><p> </p><p>One thing I <em>can</em> say, right off - Knight is most assuredly, on top of the diagnosis's he has, having some issued with the separation from his Dad. Knowing there <em>are</em> issues there does make it harder on you. I understand. But something you may not realize - or you might! - Knight may have an underlying fear that <em>his behavior is the reason</em> for XH being, well, X. "I was so bad Daddy was drinking and hurt himself and left..." No matter that you know it isn't true, it may take a LOT of love (from you) to make Knight understand that, no, that's not true. (FWIW, Onyxx thought that <em>she </em>had asked BM to leave husband, and so was to blame for their fights and subsequent divorce - and after a LOT of discussion, she finally realized that wasn't a memory, that was what BM had told her. And with subsequent events, she now understands it WASN'T her fault.)</p><p> </p><p>The teacher was right to come to you. She was also right to ask Knight about it <em>in private</em>. But then - trust me - kids say things around other kids they would <em>never</em> say around an adult. I haven't heard enough to say that she's targeting him - yet.</p><p> </p><p>But the behavior and the cursing? Not appropriate. And I think it would be worthwhile to return to the neuropsychologist (or, better, find another one); their "findings" won't necessarily make things worse, but may in fact point you in a direction. At least now that Jett has official diagnosis's, we can work with the IEP and him. Even if we don't always know what we're doing!</p><p> </p><p>More hugs, by the way. And that's just a little bit, really. There are others who know a LOT more (and might even contradict what I've said, LOL).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 391740, member: 6705"] CQ - welcome! First of all, lots of hugs. I know it's not easy, especially when you have problems with XH. One thing I [I]can[/I] say, right off - Knight is most assuredly, on top of the diagnosis's he has, having some issued with the separation from his Dad. Knowing there [I]are[/I] issues there does make it harder on you. I understand. But something you may not realize - or you might! - Knight may have an underlying fear that [I]his behavior is the reason[/I] for XH being, well, X. "I was so bad Daddy was drinking and hurt himself and left..." No matter that you know it isn't true, it may take a LOT of love (from you) to make Knight understand that, no, that's not true. (FWIW, Onyxx thought that [I]she [/I]had asked BM to leave husband, and so was to blame for their fights and subsequent divorce - and after a LOT of discussion, she finally realized that wasn't a memory, that was what BM had told her. And with subsequent events, she now understands it WASN'T her fault.) The teacher was right to come to you. She was also right to ask Knight about it [I]in private[/I]. But then - trust me - kids say things around other kids they would [I]never[/I] say around an adult. I haven't heard enough to say that she's targeting him - yet. But the behavior and the cursing? Not appropriate. And I think it would be worthwhile to return to the neuropsychologist (or, better, find another one); their "findings" won't necessarily make things worse, but may in fact point you in a direction. At least now that Jett has official diagnosis's, we can work with the IEP and him. Even if we don't always know what we're doing! More hugs, by the way. And that's just a little bit, really. There are others who know a LOT more (and might even contradict what I've said, LOL). [/QUOTE]
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