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<blockquote data-quote="danablue" data-source="post: 380716"><p>Fred has always been high energy. We have likened him to an engine that revs at high rpms. Everyone else is in 2nd gear, while he's in fourth. In elementary school, things like staying in his seat were a constant problem, but, depending on the teacher's style, could be handled. And then he'd get into a fight and get suspended. He read early and, as I said, can do math in his head, so many of his behavioral issues were chalked up to being bored in class. We've done the behavior charts and books, and his teachers have his dad and me on speed dial it seems. </p><p> </p><p>The disrespect is fairly new, within the last year or so. Essentially, <em>I don't have to do what you say because you're not Dad.</em> And when Dad agrees with me (which is most of the time, although we always present a united front), he complains that I'm "overruling" Dad. It's not a matter AT ALL of Rev not respecting me -- these children have never seen us argue, let alone disrespect each other. We have a very supportive family -- both sides -- which makes Fred's behavior all the more puzzling. </p><p> </p><p>He'll start high school next year, and unless he gets his act together, he won't have the letters of rec to get him into a charter school. He's taking the exam for private schools in November, but, honestly, he's too distractable to be a good test-taker, so I'm not holding my breath. When he wants to concentrate on something, he can; when he doesn't, he won't. Even so, that kind of academically rigorous environment is probably not a good fit. I have been looking at a therapeutic high school, but I don't know yet what it costs. </p><p> </p><p>My question is, do I go for a psychiatrist or psychologist? We've already tried a couple "counselors" and a therapist. Waste of time.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="danablue, post: 380716"] Fred has always been high energy. We have likened him to an engine that revs at high rpms. Everyone else is in 2nd gear, while he's in fourth. In elementary school, things like staying in his seat were a constant problem, but, depending on the teacher's style, could be handled. And then he'd get into a fight and get suspended. He read early and, as I said, can do math in his head, so many of his behavioral issues were chalked up to being bored in class. We've done the behavior charts and books, and his teachers have his dad and me on speed dial it seems. The disrespect is fairly new, within the last year or so. Essentially, [I]I don't have to do what you say because you're not Dad.[/I] And when Dad agrees with me (which is most of the time, although we always present a united front), he complains that I'm "overruling" Dad. It's not a matter AT ALL of Rev not respecting me -- these children have never seen us argue, let alone disrespect each other. We have a very supportive family -- both sides -- which makes Fred's behavior all the more puzzling. He'll start high school next year, and unless he gets his act together, he won't have the letters of rec to get him into a charter school. He's taking the exam for private schools in November, but, honestly, he's too distractable to be a good test-taker, so I'm not holding my breath. When he wants to concentrate on something, he can; when he doesn't, he won't. Even so, that kind of academically rigorous environment is probably not a good fit. I have been looking at a therapeutic high school, but I don't know yet what it costs. My question is, do I go for a psychiatrist or psychologist? We've already tried a couple "counselors" and a therapist. Waste of time. [/QUOTE]
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