Soapbox -
I am so glad to have your imput (as well as others). I also thought the way she held her pencil was a huge indication of possible other underlying issues. The councelor we saw in May 2011 at a local children's hospital suggest Occupational Therapist (OT) for her but of course the school psychologist said "the way she holds her pencil is already set in stone by 2nd grade. Occupational Therapist (OT) isn't going to change that." She is also the one who told me that difficult child doesn't qualify for an IEP or 504 as she is doing average in class. She even went as far as to say that he mainly works with 'inner city kids' (which we are not part of the inner city school system) and was pretty much full of s**t as he diagnosis lots of kids with dyslexia.
This is still all new to me so on one hand I have someone telling me Occupational Therapist (OT) is highly recommended for her and on the other hand I have our city's elementary psychologist telling me she is fine. BUT, now that I have a further understanding I will be requesting in writing (again) that the school have her tested. Is her school the first place I should start with the Speech Language Pathologist (SLP) testing?