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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 537563" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Hi there, other than your having a husband we have a lot in common! I am an Speech Language Pathologist (SLP) too (now only mom to Q,my difficult child (our term here for our challenging kids...gift from god, smile). I also worked in the schools and would never have treated anyone like we have been treated. I FOUGHT FOR kids with behavior problems! </p><p></p><p>Also, my son is adopted (from foster care) ...came home at 2.9. He is 15 now so I have a little more road traveled I guess...sigh. </p><p></p><p>First, that they disregarded your FBA request....really disturbing. Next time you request an assessment or any communication for IEP issues, put it in writing and send it certified mail so they have to reply in writing why they are denying things, and you are starting a record to use against them. Look at writeslaw.com and see that for any child on an IEP the mandate is to analyze behaviors and develop a positive plan (as you know). IF you can, get an advocate. I think it is sometimes worse when they know you are teachers. I finally called the state disability law center and got a law advocate because things got really ugly here. </p><p></p><p>It DOES sound like more than Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD)....as you said...FASD sounds really possible esp because he is falling apart everywhere (when it is more pure Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), the kids can hide their behaviors in some settings, of course as in the case of my son the Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) and cognitive challenges change that too, sigh).</p><p></p><p>Can you get him a private neuropsychology evaluation? If you disagree with their evaluation...or at any time really, you can request an independent evaluation too. But I'd do the neuropsychologist no matter what. They can help you sort through differential diagnosis. Also if you can find an adoption clinic, have an FASD expert evaluate him medically. The education for him will clearly need a different road if this is true.</p><p></p><p>My son is worse in special needs classes too. As he got older though, the dilemma was that the gap widened and because he could not follow the discussions he blurted out off topic more and more and mainstream teachers got frustrated. He is actually in a class designed for FASD (but isn't, he has a brain injury from another source, but similar behaviors...doesn't have the memory challenges though--also generalizes well, no physical features and very low risk of his having been exposed but one never knows.....)</p><p></p><p>The class is going very well, their goal is to preserve his dignity and we are at transition age so now working on more functional goals.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, just sharing because I have sooo been there. My son has 1:1 all day everywhere. MUST have it for learning to take place now. </p><p></p><p>Warning about an FBA, many just do the standard "what is the motivation of this behavior" method and categorize it to the traditional groups like escape, attention, etc.....</p><p></p><p>Lack of prerequisite skills, triggers, internal dysregulation, sensory challenges, may be mentioned but can be so ignored. Sounds like your folks are almost doing the opposite and do not understand the kinds of behavior challenges that may come from institutionalized/survival/broken attachment behavior.</p><p></p><p>Any options for open enrollment in another district? </p><p></p><p>I'd put in writing that you disagree and put your warrior mom suit on and dive in. I am here to tell you that it feels awful to go from that team process where you feel good about the whole IEP procedure to being on the other side and risk people not liking you, not thinking of you as a professional and equal on the team, etc. I found myself dumbing down what I said to try to keep them from being defensive. I dont do that anymore!</p><p></p><p>Hope you can find an advocate.</p><p></p><p>Have you read the book Lost in School by Ross Greene??? You might get ideas there. </p><p></p><p>Do you feel your difficult child learns from consequences? Does he stop behaviors once you give a punishment? What do you want for him in the mainstream....make your case. Write your dream IEP. Then you have a negotiating point to go from. </p><p></p><p>May I ask if you know of his history? (you said orphanage so I am assuming it is a non USA adoption). </p><p></p><p>Anyway, this all may not be of any help, but....just wanted to say hi and welcome and let you and husband know you are in good company. My WHOLE view of the system I loved to work in has changed. It is sickening what my insides feel when I review my past year. </p><p></p><p>Stay strong....dont sign off till your GUT says it is right.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 537563, member: 12886"] Hi there, other than your having a husband we have a lot in common! I am an Speech Language Pathologist (SLP) too (now only mom to Q,my difficult child (our term here for our challenging kids...gift from god, smile). I also worked in the schools and would never have treated anyone like we have been treated. I FOUGHT FOR kids with behavior problems! Also, my son is adopted (from foster care) ...came home at 2.9. He is 15 now so I have a little more road traveled I guess...sigh. First, that they disregarded your FBA request....really disturbing. Next time you request an assessment or any communication for IEP issues, put it in writing and send it certified mail so they have to reply in writing why they are denying things, and you are starting a record to use against them. Look at writeslaw.com and see that for any child on an IEP the mandate is to analyze behaviors and develop a positive plan (as you know). IF you can, get an advocate. I think it is sometimes worse when they know you are teachers. I finally called the state disability law center and got a law advocate because things got really ugly here. It DOES sound like more than Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD)....as you said...FASD sounds really possible esp because he is falling apart everywhere (when it is more pure Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), the kids can hide their behaviors in some settings, of course as in the case of my son the Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) and cognitive challenges change that too, sigh). Can you get him a private neuropsychology evaluation? If you disagree with their evaluation...or at any time really, you can request an independent evaluation too. But I'd do the neuropsychologist no matter what. They can help you sort through differential diagnosis. Also if you can find an adoption clinic, have an FASD expert evaluate him medically. The education for him will clearly need a different road if this is true. My son is worse in special needs classes too. As he got older though, the dilemma was that the gap widened and because he could not follow the discussions he blurted out off topic more and more and mainstream teachers got frustrated. He is actually in a class designed for FASD (but isn't, he has a brain injury from another source, but similar behaviors...doesn't have the memory challenges though--also generalizes well, no physical features and very low risk of his having been exposed but one never knows.....) The class is going very well, their goal is to preserve his dignity and we are at transition age so now working on more functional goals. Anyway, just sharing because I have sooo been there. My son has 1:1 all day everywhere. MUST have it for learning to take place now. Warning about an FBA, many just do the standard "what is the motivation of this behavior" method and categorize it to the traditional groups like escape, attention, etc..... Lack of prerequisite skills, triggers, internal dysregulation, sensory challenges, may be mentioned but can be so ignored. Sounds like your folks are almost doing the opposite and do not understand the kinds of behavior challenges that may come from institutionalized/survival/broken attachment behavior. Any options for open enrollment in another district? I'd put in writing that you disagree and put your warrior mom suit on and dive in. I am here to tell you that it feels awful to go from that team process where you feel good about the whole IEP procedure to being on the other side and risk people not liking you, not thinking of you as a professional and equal on the team, etc. I found myself dumbing down what I said to try to keep them from being defensive. I dont do that anymore! Hope you can find an advocate. Have you read the book Lost in School by Ross Greene??? You might get ideas there. Do you feel your difficult child learns from consequences? Does he stop behaviors once you give a punishment? What do you want for him in the mainstream....make your case. Write your dream IEP. Then you have a negotiating point to go from. May I ask if you know of his history? (you said orphanage so I am assuming it is a non USA adoption). Anyway, this all may not be of any help, but....just wanted to say hi and welcome and let you and husband know you are in good company. My WHOLE view of the system I loved to work in has changed. It is sickening what my insides feel when I review my past year. Stay strong....dont sign off till your GUT says it is right. [/QUOTE]
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