this is such a hard task with a child that you know has deficits. We had and continue to have such a difficult time due to feeling we don't know what he's capable of in taking care of himself. But, the truth is that we all have deficits of some sort and learn through life to make accomadations, don't we? For us, it boiled down to "does he know right from wrong"? Our son has chosen "wrong" many times through impulsiveness, laziness or a sense of entitlement, so now he is living with the consequences of his choices. We all do that also, and learn from it. Will our sons learn from their choices? They need lessons one hundred times over-keep your hope, this may be only #99, but ALSO keep your boundary so that the life you've been given can be good in the meantime. Prayers.
