Welcome and boy you have been through the wringer!
If I were you I'd get into some type of therapy for yourself and your husband. I am sure he loves his son and feels awful that he cannot have a normal life and it's really no fault of his own. He cannot be a father to him.
I know I'd have a lot of guilt for that same reason - not that you should but it's a normal, human emotion.
Its' so very tragic. I am glad you found us. There is so much love and wisdom here - and support - which we all need.
Be kind to yourself. You deserve some peace.
Please keep posting and keep us updated on how you all are doing.
