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<blockquote data-quote="idohope" data-source="post: 310543" data-attributes="member: 7722"><p>Not exactly sure what the issue is. She is very bright and does well academically. School neuropsychologist testing several years ago found considerable sub test variablilty which perhaps points to some processing issue but they determined there was no educational impact. She is above average in all subjects. She viewed herself as stupid in math last year when they focused on a timed test for math facts but this year she voluntarily joined the math team and seems confident in her math and her reading abilities. She has expressed to me in a rare quiet moment that she "just cant do it" referring to school and that they expect you to be perfect in school.</p><p></p><p>If we can get her onto school grounds she seems fine and will pretty easily walk in so long as she does not think you can tell she has been crying. It is getting ready that is the hard part.</p><p></p><p>This morning she was excited about something happening this afternoon and willingly got in the car with her brother to go to the bus stop. When the bus arrived she said that she needed a book and would get in trouble if she did not have it. So the other kids got on the bus including easy child 3 and she went back to the car. The bus driver was holding the bus for her and she told me to tell him to go and that we needed to get the book and drive her to school. So I tell her that is fine and I tell the bus driver to go. As soon as the bus pulls away she is screaming and crying that she needs to take the bus and that she has to take the bus on Friday and can not be driven on Friday. We go home and get the book and we catch the bus on a stop on the way to her school and she gets on. Whew!</p><p></p><p>Earlier in the week it was clothes. She could not get dressed and said that she is not allowed to wear shorts to school and has no pants and it is my fault because I did not do laundry. She was screaming and crying and locked me in her room and was pulling my hair. I finally got out and put some clothes from the washer into the dryer. When these were dry I gave them to her and she put on a pair of shorts and husband drove her to school 1 hr late. (She wears shorts almost everyday to school;no such rule that I know about). The next day she wore a pair of shorts that had been available the day before but she refused to wear.</p><p></p><p>I know it seems like more preparation the night before would help but if you ask her to pack up her bag and make sure she has what she needs she refuses. Same with picking out an outfit. She refuses to pick one out or could refuse that outfit the next morning. Or it could be that the snack is not right or ...</p><p></p><p>We are focusing this year on trying to not pressure her in the morning. So we agreed that we would be fine to drive her if she did not make the bus. Once she starts to get upset then trying to resolve it when the bus will be here in 10 minutes or 5 minutes definitely just escalated everthing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="idohope, post: 310543, member: 7722"] Not exactly sure what the issue is. She is very bright and does well academically. School neuropsychologist testing several years ago found considerable sub test variablilty which perhaps points to some processing issue but they determined there was no educational impact. She is above average in all subjects. She viewed herself as stupid in math last year when they focused on a timed test for math facts but this year she voluntarily joined the math team and seems confident in her math and her reading abilities. She has expressed to me in a rare quiet moment that she "just cant do it" referring to school and that they expect you to be perfect in school. If we can get her onto school grounds she seems fine and will pretty easily walk in so long as she does not think you can tell she has been crying. It is getting ready that is the hard part. This morning she was excited about something happening this afternoon and willingly got in the car with her brother to go to the bus stop. When the bus arrived she said that she needed a book and would get in trouble if she did not have it. So the other kids got on the bus including easy child 3 and she went back to the car. The bus driver was holding the bus for her and she told me to tell him to go and that we needed to get the book and drive her to school. So I tell her that is fine and I tell the bus driver to go. As soon as the bus pulls away she is screaming and crying that she needs to take the bus and that she has to take the bus on Friday and can not be driven on Friday. We go home and get the book and we catch the bus on a stop on the way to her school and she gets on. Whew! Earlier in the week it was clothes. She could not get dressed and said that she is not allowed to wear shorts to school and has no pants and it is my fault because I did not do laundry. She was screaming and crying and locked me in her room and was pulling my hair. I finally got out and put some clothes from the washer into the dryer. When these were dry I gave them to her and she put on a pair of shorts and husband drove her to school 1 hr late. (She wears shorts almost everyday to school;no such rule that I know about). The next day she wore a pair of shorts that had been available the day before but she refused to wear. I know it seems like more preparation the night before would help but if you ask her to pack up her bag and make sure she has what she needs she refuses. Same with picking out an outfit. She refuses to pick one out or could refuse that outfit the next morning. Or it could be that the snack is not right or ... We are focusing this year on trying to not pressure her in the morning. So we agreed that we would be fine to drive her if she did not make the bus. Once she starts to get upset then trying to resolve it when the bus will be here in 10 minutes or 5 minutes definitely just escalated everthing. [/QUOTE]
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