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<blockquote data-quote="Nature" data-source="post: 741250" data-attributes="member: 19011"><p>RN said: We feel their pain more than they do. How true! Lets face it addicts are manipulative and often only think of themselves while we on the otherside have a tremendous amount of pain and heartbreak.</p><p></p><p> Often our children have numbed their feelings as a result of their addiction and slowly when they emerge they face their past wrongs. As difficult as it is they must sometimes go through the process and it can hit them hard. They start to realize the consequences of their actions and for some it can cause depression. As difficult as it is (yes, I've also rehearsed how I've wanted our conversations to be only for them to not turn out that way at all) perhaps keep your conversation to a minimum with the mindset you are going to say one positive thing and then not discuss anything else as hard as that may be. I've once had an addict tell me their mothers calls would annoy them and they would often "play the dance" where one set off the other and the conversations became long marathons with each trying to convince the other of the benefits of their life. Eventually, the mom's words of I love you and am concerned did hit home with this person. There are no right and wrong answers and what works for some may not work for others. Thinking of you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nature, post: 741250, member: 19011"] RN said: We feel their pain more than they do. How true! Lets face it addicts are manipulative and often only think of themselves while we on the otherside have a tremendous amount of pain and heartbreak. Often our children have numbed their feelings as a result of their addiction and slowly when they emerge they face their past wrongs. As difficult as it is they must sometimes go through the process and it can hit them hard. They start to realize the consequences of their actions and for some it can cause depression. As difficult as it is (yes, I've also rehearsed how I've wanted our conversations to be only for them to not turn out that way at all) perhaps keep your conversation to a minimum with the mindset you are going to say one positive thing and then not discuss anything else as hard as that may be. I've once had an addict tell me their mothers calls would annoy them and they would often "play the dance" where one set off the other and the conversations became long marathons with each trying to convince the other of the benefits of their life. Eventually, the mom's words of I love you and am concerned did hit home with this person. There are no right and wrong answers and what works for some may not work for others. Thinking of you. [/QUOTE]
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