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Is Anyone Else Here Coping With Aging difficult child Parents?
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<blockquote data-quote="Kjs" data-source="post: 60137"><p>That all sounds so wonderful. Unfortunately it is not always possible. I was a later in life baby, my parents had the first group of kids when they were young..then two more came later.</p><p>My father had parkinsens's disease for many, many years. All the rails and gadgets were supplied in their home. My mothers entire life revolved around him. He fell. Became imobile (sp?)</p><p>Then the nursing home. My mother was there every waking moment of every single day. Promising him he was coming home. The disease has some drastic outcomes, and things didn't work out that way. My mother became very bitter. Mean. Then just stopped caring. Didn't get dressed, didn't check her blood sugar, didn't take her insulin. She has had a series of strokes leaving her unable to walk and unable to speak. She has been in a nursing home for 5 years atleast. No - - they didn't want a nursing home. They told us that. They went from their home, to a duplex, to an apartment, to an assisted living apartment..but there comes a point where you are just not able to care for them anylonger. There physical and medical needs are so great you just cannot do it. Only one brother and one sister live in our hometown. They have always taken care of out parents. They both have learned to detach. They have their own families, and work to attend to. My sister was a nervous wreck at one point, I don't know how she did it. </p><p>Caring for aging parents is as demanding, more so than difficult child's. You feel obligated because these are your parents, but the demand sometimes is more than you can give. Detach. See that they are well cared for. Detach.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kjs, post: 60137"] That all sounds so wonderful. Unfortunately it is not always possible. I was a later in life baby, my parents had the first group of kids when they were young..then two more came later. My father had parkinsens's disease for many, many years. All the rails and gadgets were supplied in their home. My mothers entire life revolved around him. He fell. Became imobile (sp?) Then the nursing home. My mother was there every waking moment of every single day. Promising him he was coming home. The disease has some drastic outcomes, and things didn't work out that way. My mother became very bitter. Mean. Then just stopped caring. Didn't get dressed, didn't check her blood sugar, didn't take her insulin. She has had a series of strokes leaving her unable to walk and unable to speak. She has been in a nursing home for 5 years atleast. No - - they didn't want a nursing home. They told us that. They went from their home, to a duplex, to an apartment, to an assisted living apartment..but there comes a point where you are just not able to care for them anylonger. There physical and medical needs are so great you just cannot do it. Only one brother and one sister live in our hometown. They have always taken care of out parents. They both have learned to detach. They have their own families, and work to attend to. My sister was a nervous wreck at one point, I don't know how she did it. Caring for aging parents is as demanding, more so than difficult child's. You feel obligated because these are your parents, but the demand sometimes is more than you can give. Detach. See that they are well cared for. Detach. [/QUOTE]
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