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Is anyone here parent to an adult child with Asperger's/roleplaying addiction?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 605426" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi there. I do have a child with high functioning autism and he does obsess, but not so that he can't function. However, although he can leave his obsessions at home, he is always thinking about them and obsessions/addictive thinking is a big part of any form of autism. It is unlikely to go away, especially if she has always had these obsessions. It is not like drinking or drug addiction. It is getting mentally stuck because of the autistic brain.</p><p></p><p>Your daughter has a very real disability. In spite of her intelligence, she is on the autism spectrum and obsessive interests are part of the problem with many of our kids. This disaiblity is getting in the way of her living a so-called "normal" life and her brain is likely wired differently than other smart young adults. She is not misguided and you have not been a "bad" parent. She is simply not a typical person and her quirks, which are not unusual, are more important to her than your idea of a successful life. She doesn't think like you and me. Her problems at work are common for an ASDer. It is also common for an ASDer to have a very high IQ yet be unable to hold a job. I know an Asperger's man who has an IQ of 160, speaks six languages, and can not even hold a janitor's position. He is on full disability. He will never be completely independent, in spite of his extreme brilliance. Fortunately he is married, but his wife has to sort of take care of everything. His obsession is Christianity and he spends all his life on it. He can quote the Bible almost verbatim and thinks about it constantly.</p><p></p><p>Have you ever spent a great deal of time studying what Asperger's Syndrome really is? Has your daughter gotten Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) interventions as a young child and up? I don't mean talk therapy...that doesn't work for most Aspies. I mean, learning how to deal with the world as it is. It works with some Aspies and some Aspies remain stuck to their own ways of thinking, not to be defiant but because they are different. I feel you are being hard on her. The very things you say she WON'T do are things many if not most Aspies CAN'T do, especially regarding relationships. </p><p></p><p>Does she still live with you? If so, why is that? She is twenty-eight and there are assisted living apartments if she is unable to work, either due to Aspergers, mental illness, or both. Are you paying all her bills? She will never break away from her obsessions if you do not force her to make her own money and buy her own luxuries. The Dept. of Workforce Development should be able to get her a job. It may be a simple job, one that she normally would be too bright to do, but because of her issues she may have to take a job that, say, does not involve multi-tasking. She sounds sort of Aspie and sort of "something else" to me. Can you give us a longer history on her, from babyhood on (the short version). Any mental illness on either side of her family tree?</p><p></p><p>Do you have any other children who are being affected by her behavior?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 605426, member: 1550"] Hi there. I do have a child with high functioning autism and he does obsess, but not so that he can't function. However, although he can leave his obsessions at home, he is always thinking about them and obsessions/addictive thinking is a big part of any form of autism. It is unlikely to go away, especially if she has always had these obsessions. It is not like drinking or drug addiction. It is getting mentally stuck because of the autistic brain. Your daughter has a very real disability. In spite of her intelligence, she is on the autism spectrum and obsessive interests are part of the problem with many of our kids. This disaiblity is getting in the way of her living a so-called "normal" life and her brain is likely wired differently than other smart young adults. She is not misguided and you have not been a "bad" parent. She is simply not a typical person and her quirks, which are not unusual, are more important to her than your idea of a successful life. She doesn't think like you and me. Her problems at work are common for an ASDer. It is also common for an ASDer to have a very high IQ yet be unable to hold a job. I know an Asperger's man who has an IQ of 160, speaks six languages, and can not even hold a janitor's position. He is on full disability. He will never be completely independent, in spite of his extreme brilliance. Fortunately he is married, but his wife has to sort of take care of everything. His obsession is Christianity and he spends all his life on it. He can quote the Bible almost verbatim and thinks about it constantly. Have you ever spent a great deal of time studying what Asperger's Syndrome really is? Has your daughter gotten Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) interventions as a young child and up? I don't mean talk therapy...that doesn't work for most Aspies. I mean, learning how to deal with the world as it is. It works with some Aspies and some Aspies remain stuck to their own ways of thinking, not to be defiant but because they are different. I feel you are being hard on her. The very things you say she WON'T do are things many if not most Aspies CAN'T do, especially regarding relationships. Does she still live with you? If so, why is that? She is twenty-eight and there are assisted living apartments if she is unable to work, either due to Aspergers, mental illness, or both. Are you paying all her bills? She will never break away from her obsessions if you do not force her to make her own money and buy her own luxuries. The Dept. of Workforce Development should be able to get her a job. It may be a simple job, one that she normally would be too bright to do, but because of her issues she may have to take a job that, say, does not involve multi-tasking. She sounds sort of Aspie and sort of "something else" to me. Can you give us a longer history on her, from babyhood on (the short version). Any mental illness on either side of her family tree? Do you have any other children who are being affected by her behavior? [/QUOTE]
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