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<blockquote data-quote="goomer" data-source="post: 605487" data-attributes="member: 16807"><p>No. She's been mooching off her friends for an unknown period of time.....I say unknown because she has lied so much about everything to us that there is no way for me to know what's true and what isn't.</p><p></p><p> I haven't seen these. It would likely be too proactive a thing to do, though. She doesn't do anything that's proactive near as I can tell. Not being harsh here.....just realistic.</p><p> We were paying for her brand new cell phone....she was on our plan and we had bought the phone as a birthday present for her after she told us she was sincerely interested in getting her life together. Of course, when this all blew up last week, it was discovered she had been lying to us (myself and her stepdad....who is wonderful father figure to her) all along, so we shut the phone off for good. Other than that, I am pretty sure she's not been paying her auto insurance, because in order to do so would require she have a source of income, which she does not. I know she was also very behind on her rent on the room she has in some crazy dude's house. </p><p> Yes, she cannot multitask at all lol</p><p></p><p>. Why do you think so?</p><p></p><p>This will take a while lol. </p><p></p><p>Short version:</p><p>Nobody in my own family is maladjusted in the way she is.....not even close, in fact. The closest relative to have any similar issues whatsoever would have been my mother's half-brother, now dead. Everyone on my side of the family has at least a four year degree, and several of us, including myself, have graduate degrees. We have all had gainful employment and dealt with normal responsibilties.</p><p></p><p>Myself? I am on the Aspie spectrum somewhat, but have never really made that a big deal in my life. I guess I don't live my life around a diagnosis, which to me seems seriously counterproductive. I was very young when my daughter was born, only 19. My father had died just the year before, and I had no relationship with my mother to speak of (long story) Having her at a young age was both the hardest thing I've done, but yet it saved me at the same time. I will go into that later in more detail.</p><p></p><p>Her dad had issues as well....some of which were medical (rheumatic heart disease contracted while he was in the Navy which ultimately killed him back in 2007), and some of which were mental. He had a *nervous breakdown* in 1993. He was <em>extremely bright, </em>but unable to work much throughout all of her life. He chalked it off to the heart disease. It may have been more than that, though. He spent time twice in mental hospitals before he knew me because he (and I quote) "wanted a vacation"</p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes. My 5 yo son was there when everything came to a head last week. He has been very sad that he won't be seeing his big sister anymore. My 20yo stepson was also there. This has hurt the entire family.</p><p></p><p>I admit part of my problem with all of this is watching her behave in ways that are so antithetical to everything I hold dear. Something to do with a strong belief in the old adage *whatever doesn't kill you will make you stronger*</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="goomer, post: 605487, member: 16807"] No. She's been mooching off her friends for an unknown period of time.....I say unknown because she has lied so much about everything to us that there is no way for me to know what's true and what isn't. I haven't seen these. It would likely be too proactive a thing to do, though. She doesn't do anything that's proactive near as I can tell. Not being harsh here.....just realistic. We were paying for her brand new cell phone....she was on our plan and we had bought the phone as a birthday present for her after she told us she was sincerely interested in getting her life together. Of course, when this all blew up last week, it was discovered she had been lying to us (myself and her stepdad....who is wonderful father figure to her) all along, so we shut the phone off for good. Other than that, I am pretty sure she's not been paying her auto insurance, because in order to do so would require she have a source of income, which she does not. I know she was also very behind on her rent on the room she has in some crazy dude's house. Yes, she cannot multitask at all lol . Why do you think so? This will take a while lol. Short version: Nobody in my own family is maladjusted in the way she is.....not even close, in fact. The closest relative to have any similar issues whatsoever would have been my mother's half-brother, now dead. Everyone on my side of the family has at least a four year degree, and several of us, including myself, have graduate degrees. We have all had gainful employment and dealt with normal responsibilties. Myself? I am on the Aspie spectrum somewhat, but have never really made that a big deal in my life. I guess I don't live my life around a diagnosis, which to me seems seriously counterproductive. I was very young when my daughter was born, only 19. My father had died just the year before, and I had no relationship with my mother to speak of (long story) Having her at a young age was both the hardest thing I've done, but yet it saved me at the same time. I will go into that later in more detail. Her dad had issues as well....some of which were medical (rheumatic heart disease contracted while he was in the Navy which ultimately killed him back in 2007), and some of which were mental. He had a *nervous breakdown* in 1993. He was [I]extremely bright, [/I]but unable to work much throughout all of her life. He chalked it off to the heart disease. It may have been more than that, though. He spent time twice in mental hospitals before he knew me because he (and I quote) "wanted a vacation" Yes. My 5 yo son was there when everything came to a head last week. He has been very sad that he won't be seeing his big sister anymore. My 20yo stepson was also there. This has hurt the entire family. I admit part of my problem with all of this is watching her behave in ways that are so antithetical to everything I hold dear. Something to do with a strong belief in the old adage *whatever doesn't kill you will make you stronger* [/QUOTE]
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