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Is anyone here parent to an adult child with Asperger's/roleplaying addiction?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 605502" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>She may not be able to do what you want of her, that's all. It's like my friend's son. By all accounts, he is a brilliant 36 year old young man who should be working at a high level job because he's so smart. But Aspergers actually can cut into a person's ability to live up to their IQs. This young man is a doll, but he has lost every job he ever had. For one t hing, being an Aspie, he thinks everything should be fair so he argues with his bosses if he sees injustices and can't seem to learn not to. He also does not really understand or accept that some people have authority over him in the workplace and gets into trouble by making "helpful" suggestions to his bosses. He does not know how to "play the work game." He is socially clueless. On top of that he can't get his obsession (Christianity) out of his mind even if he isn't where he can do anything about it. It is ALWAYS on his mind and he tends to talk about it to people who really are not up for being converted...lol. </p><p></p><p>Social cluelessness and lack of understanding how to "play the life game" is the problem with even bright Aspies. That's why I asked if your daughter had any early interventions to help teach her how life is and how to mimic "the game." Aspies also tend to be horrible at reading social cues so that they may keep talking at people even after the people are trying hard to get away. </p><p></p><p>On the other hand, there is no reason for your adult child to be rude to you. That isn't a part of Aspergers. She may have more going on than Aspergers. It's not uncommon for disorders to co-exist. Who diagnosed her and is she is any sort of treatment? I think she needs to learn how the world functions and about acceptable behavior. But at her age, she would have to go willingly. </p><p></p><p>I know how frustrating it is to have a brilliant kid who can't even seem to hold a McDonald's job because I lived through this with my friend. And, no matter what she tells him, he seems unable to stop himself from going up to everyone including strangers to try to Save them. But, in general, his life has settled down with his wife and he is happy. In the end, she feels this is the most important factor.</p><p></p><p>She would never allow him to steal or talk back to her though. He used to, but he doesn't anymore. He seems very appreciative that his family understands him, even if nobody else except his amazing wife does. He's a good young man, just wired differently, and things have improved as he ages. Maybe you need to look at her from a different perspective. Those brilliant kids can fool us. Brilliant, however, doesn't mean they have problems that severely impact day-to-day life.</p><p></p><p>I did not mean to sound harsh to you. I only meant that perhaps you don't understand what is going on in her mind. If she is like most Aspies, she won't tell you what her thought processes are and we parents are left to guess, which is not fun!!!! She may appear more capable than she actually is. I relate to her a bit. I have neurological differences and can't multitask, which rules out almost every job there is. Even Big Mac requires multitasking. </p><p></p><p>But you sound like a GREAT mom with a differently wired child.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 605502, member: 1550"] She may not be able to do what you want of her, that's all. It's like my friend's son. By all accounts, he is a brilliant 36 year old young man who should be working at a high level job because he's so smart. But Aspergers actually can cut into a person's ability to live up to their IQs. This young man is a doll, but he has lost every job he ever had. For one t hing, being an Aspie, he thinks everything should be fair so he argues with his bosses if he sees injustices and can't seem to learn not to. He also does not really understand or accept that some people have authority over him in the workplace and gets into trouble by making "helpful" suggestions to his bosses. He does not know how to "play the work game." He is socially clueless. On top of that he can't get his obsession (Christianity) out of his mind even if he isn't where he can do anything about it. It is ALWAYS on his mind and he tends to talk about it to people who really are not up for being converted...lol. Social cluelessness and lack of understanding how to "play the life game" is the problem with even bright Aspies. That's why I asked if your daughter had any early interventions to help teach her how life is and how to mimic "the game." Aspies also tend to be horrible at reading social cues so that they may keep talking at people even after the people are trying hard to get away. On the other hand, there is no reason for your adult child to be rude to you. That isn't a part of Aspergers. She may have more going on than Aspergers. It's not uncommon for disorders to co-exist. Who diagnosed her and is she is any sort of treatment? I think she needs to learn how the world functions and about acceptable behavior. But at her age, she would have to go willingly. I know how frustrating it is to have a brilliant kid who can't even seem to hold a McDonald's job because I lived through this with my friend. And, no matter what she tells him, he seems unable to stop himself from going up to everyone including strangers to try to Save them. But, in general, his life has settled down with his wife and he is happy. In the end, she feels this is the most important factor. She would never allow him to steal or talk back to her though. He used to, but he doesn't anymore. He seems very appreciative that his family understands him, even if nobody else except his amazing wife does. He's a good young man, just wired differently, and things have improved as he ages. Maybe you need to look at her from a different perspective. Those brilliant kids can fool us. Brilliant, however, doesn't mean they have problems that severely impact day-to-day life. I did not mean to sound harsh to you. I only meant that perhaps you don't understand what is going on in her mind. If she is like most Aspies, she won't tell you what her thought processes are and we parents are left to guess, which is not fun!!!! She may appear more capable than she actually is. I relate to her a bit. I have neurological differences and can't multitask, which rules out almost every job there is. Even Big Mac requires multitasking. But you sound like a GREAT mom with a differently wired child. [/QUOTE]
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