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<blockquote data-quote="goomer" data-source="post: 605504" data-attributes="member: 16807"><p>difficult child has always had some sort of obsession. I think of it as her "F'd by the cult" mentality, which is really what it amounts to be. I have seen her false enthusiasm complete with falsetto excitement to her voice right after she's been under the influence of her "cult" She behaved this way after she graduated bootcamp, for example.....which makes sense to me because bootcamp can be like becoming a member of a cult. It so happened she was the top scoring girl overall in her company in addition to being one of the top five scorers in the whole company, male and female. If you could have heard her at that time she would have convinced you the military was going to become HER LIFE. But, it didn't last long. She also spent a fair amount of time obsessed with Christianity, and used to spend a great deal of time attempting to bring me into the fold.....all to no avail of course lol. Once her father died (he was the Christian), she renounced it completely. Now through all of this, LARPing and role-playing have played large roles......but in the past several years since leaving the military, it has become much worse. I cannot really even say how much worse because she has always been so secretive about the things she does. </p><p>She is known to do this. </p><p> She hates me for my strength of character and the fact she knows I have had some severe adversities in my life that would have set many an average person back, but it didn't for me.....they just made me more determined than ever to get through and do whatever it is I set out to do.</p><p>. I don't know who diagnosed her, but she did supposedly get a Cyclothymia (little brother to Bipolar) diagnosis while she was still in the military. She was also covered on our insurance plan until federal law forced her off when she turned 26. Now her medical stuff all has to be done through the VA.</p><p></p><p>She has never been in a relationship with anyone. I know she is still a virgin as well. One thing we've always been able to discuss is matters of sexuality, because she knows I'm pretty open about all of that. She denies being gay, though. I understand many in her situation....those who become addicted to roleplaying and LARPing are, quite often, virgins until much later than everyone else. They would rather spend their time developing their elf/whatever persona than spend time with actual flesh and blood human beings. This is no joke, either.</p><p></p><p>Maybe someday. Right now I am still getting over the anger of her having the audacity to bring the POLICE to our house the other day in a grand show of dramatics just so she could get two or three bags of stuff from the house. That morning, she had actually left our house dressed in one of my job interview outfits with the alleged intent of seriously looking for work. This is one day after she allegedly signed up for three preengineering prereqs at a local CC....all of which I had helped her with because she had hit rock bottom and was seeking my help. </p><p></p><p>The day she left in my outfit she was gone all day only to return that night all dressed up in one of her ridiculous LARP getups with a weirdo friend in tow and the POLICE. God only knows what sort of baloney she must have fed them in order to get them to escort her. But that's the thing....she relishes being victimized. Her father was the same way. It was utterly <em>humiliating </em>for myself and my husband to see the police come to our house as if we're criminals!!!!!!!!! My little boy and stepson saw the whole thing. I can't believe my composure didn't give way during the whole debacle, actually. She had no bloody reason to bring the police here. She was in no danger from me.....except danger of being yelled out for her stupidity and the fact she had LIED through her teeth to both myself and my husband. Not sure I can forgive her for this, honestly, and it was because of this latest stunt that I told her not to come back here again. What else could I do at this point.....she is a lost cause. She has no desire to get her life together, and I resent being lied to and having the police brought to my home because my daughter is a drama queen. :2dissapointed:</p><p> It's okay lol. </p><p></p><p>I have a few neuroses myself lol. I am on the Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) spectrum as well....although not as much as she is.</p><p>I haven't been perfect by any means.....but she treats me as if I am some horrible person for wanting what's best for her and for refusing to condone her inabilities to deal with life. I know Aspies is a legit diagnosis and all....but to a large extent, how much it controls a person's life is, in large part (my opinion, mind you), up to how much the person allows it to.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="goomer, post: 605504, member: 16807"] difficult child has always had some sort of obsession. I think of it as her "F'd by the cult" mentality, which is really what it amounts to be. I have seen her false enthusiasm complete with falsetto excitement to her voice right after she's been under the influence of her "cult" She behaved this way after she graduated bootcamp, for example.....which makes sense to me because bootcamp can be like becoming a member of a cult. It so happened she was the top scoring girl overall in her company in addition to being one of the top five scorers in the whole company, male and female. If you could have heard her at that time she would have convinced you the military was going to become HER LIFE. But, it didn't last long. She also spent a fair amount of time obsessed with Christianity, and used to spend a great deal of time attempting to bring me into the fold.....all to no avail of course lol. Once her father died (he was the Christian), she renounced it completely. Now through all of this, LARPing and role-playing have played large roles......but in the past several years since leaving the military, it has become much worse. I cannot really even say how much worse because she has always been so secretive about the things she does. She is known to do this. She hates me for my strength of character and the fact she knows I have had some severe adversities in my life that would have set many an average person back, but it didn't for me.....they just made me more determined than ever to get through and do whatever it is I set out to do. . I don't know who diagnosed her, but she did supposedly get a Cyclothymia (little brother to Bipolar) diagnosis while she was still in the military. She was also covered on our insurance plan until federal law forced her off when she turned 26. Now her medical stuff all has to be done through the VA. She has never been in a relationship with anyone. I know she is still a virgin as well. One thing we've always been able to discuss is matters of sexuality, because she knows I'm pretty open about all of that. She denies being gay, though. I understand many in her situation....those who become addicted to roleplaying and LARPing are, quite often, virgins until much later than everyone else. They would rather spend their time developing their elf/whatever persona than spend time with actual flesh and blood human beings. This is no joke, either. Maybe someday. Right now I am still getting over the anger of her having the audacity to bring the POLICE to our house the other day in a grand show of dramatics just so she could get two or three bags of stuff from the house. That morning, she had actually left our house dressed in one of my job interview outfits with the alleged intent of seriously looking for work. This is one day after she allegedly signed up for three preengineering prereqs at a local CC....all of which I had helped her with because she had hit rock bottom and was seeking my help. The day she left in my outfit she was gone all day only to return that night all dressed up in one of her ridiculous LARP getups with a weirdo friend in tow and the POLICE. God only knows what sort of baloney she must have fed them in order to get them to escort her. But that's the thing....she relishes being victimized. Her father was the same way. It was utterly [I]humiliating [/I]for myself and my husband to see the police come to our house as if we're criminals!!!!!!!!! My little boy and stepson saw the whole thing. I can't believe my composure didn't give way during the whole debacle, actually. She had no bloody reason to bring the police here. She was in no danger from me.....except danger of being yelled out for her stupidity and the fact she had LIED through her teeth to both myself and my husband. Not sure I can forgive her for this, honestly, and it was because of this latest stunt that I told her not to come back here again. What else could I do at this point.....she is a lost cause. She has no desire to get her life together, and I resent being lied to and having the police brought to my home because my daughter is a drama queen. :2dissapointed: It's okay lol. I have a few neuroses myself lol. I am on the Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) spectrum as well....although not as much as she is. I haven't been perfect by any means.....but she treats me as if I am some horrible person for wanting what's best for her and for refusing to condone her inabilities to deal with life. I know Aspies is a legit diagnosis and all....but to a large extent, how much it controls a person's life is, in large part (my opinion, mind you), up to how much the person allows it to. [/QUOTE]
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