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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 70171" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>Honetly, I wouldn't stop her. At least she's let you know this is going to happen. by the way -- Don't be surprised if the young man has no idea she is moving in with him. It might be he mentioned he is getting the apartment and she decided she is moving in with him. That's what happened with my daughter. Her roommates were very surprised when they had a new roomie. Each time. And each time it lasted no more than 2 months.</p><p></p><p>How good of a roommate she is will also be a huge factor. Where will the $100 come from if she has no job? How will she pay for her share of food? Will she leave messes everywhere or is she good about cleaning up after herself? If she's the only girl living there, the odds are she will be expected to be the one to clean after everyone. </p><p></p><p>When mine left home, everyone had lost their jobs in her first two forays into the real world. Everyone was evicted from the first apartment. The second apartment was saved because one boy's grandmother paid for things until at least one of them got a job and supported the other three. Last I heard, he still has the apartment but all new roomies.</p><p></p><p>Now, I was nasty when my daughter decided to move out. She could take her personal property. However, if she hadn't paid for it or it wasn't a gift for birthday or the holidays from someone other than me, it stayed at home. If I paid for it, no matter what the reason, it stayed as collateral for money owed me. You can also use the collateral issue as a way to stop her from taking any big ticket items you're afraid will get lost, stolen or damaged. She pays for the $1000, she gets her stuff.</p><p></p><p>I agree she should be responsible for repaying you for the college fees unless she takes the classes and gives you copies of her transcripts as proof.</p><p></p><p>As to her car, personally escort her to DMV and make that her signature is on the title so that it is hers. I wouldn't tell her this but I would keep her on my insurance. I would still insist she get her own insurance. Again, the odds are that she will simply drive without insurance because she won't be able to afford it. I say keep her on yours for three reasons -- she'll be under 21 (and amazingly parents are frequently held responsibile even with kids living on their own), the odds are she will still show your home as her residence on everything but job applications and she'll probably come home pretty quickly.</p><p></p><p>You're not going to be able to stop her, not even until October. You don't have to condone it. You don't have to approve it. You're more or less stuck accepting it. </p><p></p><p>HUGS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 70171, member: 3626"] Honetly, I wouldn't stop her. At least she's let you know this is going to happen. by the way -- Don't be surprised if the young man has no idea she is moving in with him. It might be he mentioned he is getting the apartment and she decided she is moving in with him. That's what happened with my daughter. Her roommates were very surprised when they had a new roomie. Each time. And each time it lasted no more than 2 months. How good of a roommate she is will also be a huge factor. Where will the $100 come from if she has no job? How will she pay for her share of food? Will she leave messes everywhere or is she good about cleaning up after herself? If she's the only girl living there, the odds are she will be expected to be the one to clean after everyone. When mine left home, everyone had lost their jobs in her first two forays into the real world. Everyone was evicted from the first apartment. The second apartment was saved because one boy's grandmother paid for things until at least one of them got a job and supported the other three. Last I heard, he still has the apartment but all new roomies. Now, I was nasty when my daughter decided to move out. She could take her personal property. However, if she hadn't paid for it or it wasn't a gift for birthday or the holidays from someone other than me, it stayed at home. If I paid for it, no matter what the reason, it stayed as collateral for money owed me. You can also use the collateral issue as a way to stop her from taking any big ticket items you're afraid will get lost, stolen or damaged. She pays for the $1000, she gets her stuff. I agree she should be responsible for repaying you for the college fees unless she takes the classes and gives you copies of her transcripts as proof. As to her car, personally escort her to DMV and make that her signature is on the title so that it is hers. I wouldn't tell her this but I would keep her on my insurance. I would still insist she get her own insurance. Again, the odds are that she will simply drive without insurance because she won't be able to afford it. I say keep her on yours for three reasons -- she'll be under 21 (and amazingly parents are frequently held responsibile even with kids living on their own), the odds are she will still show your home as her residence on everything but job applications and she'll probably come home pretty quickly. You're not going to be able to stop her, not even until October. You don't have to condone it. You don't have to approve it. You're more or less stuck accepting it. HUGS [/QUOTE]
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