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Is it bad that I want to strangle him already?
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 515051" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>(((((hugs)))))</p><p></p><p>I had some hope that being in prison would have forced him to mature, but it sure doesn't seem like it. You and husband are going to have to figure out what you will and won't do with/for him, and stick to that. Hopefully the two of you will be on the same page and forcing difficult child to take care of his life and not rely on you and husband to rescue him will eventually mean that he gains some maturity.</p><p></p><p>Hopefully the people at the shelter are experienced in dealing with difficult children and will insist on some things that will help him. Until he is out of the house, you can suggest he go spend some time out of the house. He is going to make bad choices with money and he is going to call you because he is out of food, etc.... Now is the time to start figuring out how you want to handle that. While it may be hard for you and/or husband to do, letting him go hungry or suffer other consequences of choices to blow his funds the way he did today will probably be the only way he will ever be able to learn to not do that in the future. Star might be able to give you more ideas on that because it was hard but she didn't bail Dude out and he did start to make some better choices. </p><p></p><p>I am really sorry it is already so hard to have him in your daily life again. Have you got a plan if the shelter won't take him?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 515051, member: 1233"] (((((hugs))))) I had some hope that being in prison would have forced him to mature, but it sure doesn't seem like it. You and husband are going to have to figure out what you will and won't do with/for him, and stick to that. Hopefully the two of you will be on the same page and forcing difficult child to take care of his life and not rely on you and husband to rescue him will eventually mean that he gains some maturity. Hopefully the people at the shelter are experienced in dealing with difficult children and will insist on some things that will help him. Until he is out of the house, you can suggest he go spend some time out of the house. He is going to make bad choices with money and he is going to call you because he is out of food, etc.... Now is the time to start figuring out how you want to handle that. While it may be hard for you and/or husband to do, letting him go hungry or suffer other consequences of choices to blow his funds the way he did today will probably be the only way he will ever be able to learn to not do that in the future. Star might be able to give you more ideas on that because it was hard but she didn't bail Dude out and he did start to make some better choices. I am really sorry it is already so hard to have him in your daily life again. Have you got a plan if the shelter won't take him? [/QUOTE]
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