Others have made great points about acceptance. I highly doubt that I will ever have the loving caring mutual relationship with my son that I wish for. This makes me very sad. I do however have a great relationship with mu daughter and yes in some ways I do think this makes the loss with my son easier to bear.
However my daughter wants nothing to do with my son and they have no relationship. This also makes me sad as they were close when they were young. So I end up with completely separate relationships including holidays. This makes me sad too. I get where my daughter is coming from. She needs to protect herself as my son would screw her over in a minute if doing so would benefit him. So I am respecting her stand on this.
