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<blockquote data-quote="Acacia" data-source="post: 733437" data-attributes="member: 19832"><p>Wendy, I can so relate to your story, your fear, guilt, and and pain. I am 65 and my son is 32, and he has been difficult since about the same age as your son. </p><p>Like you, part of why I have enabled is because of guilt and also fear of how he might act out violently. </p><p></p><p>It is a terrible way to live - actually no way to live, so I have been working hard through reading, this site, twelve step, and therapy to learn to set boundaries. I know my patterns are routed in the dysfunction of my childhood, but I am determined to break them. I am a much different, healthier person than I was 10 years ago. I still have a long way to go.</p><p></p><p>You can get there. You can always love your son, but more importantly you can learn to value yourself as much and treat yourself kindly even if that means having no contact with your son until he treats you with respect.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Acacia, post: 733437, member: 19832"] Wendy, I can so relate to your story, your fear, guilt, and and pain. I am 65 and my son is 32, and he has been difficult since about the same age as your son. Like you, part of why I have enabled is because of guilt and also fear of how he might act out violently. It is a terrible way to live - actually no way to live, so I have been working hard through reading, this site, twelve step, and therapy to learn to set boundaries. I know my patterns are routed in the dysfunction of my childhood, but I am determined to break them. I am a much different, healthier person than I was 10 years ago. I still have a long way to go. You can get there. You can always love your son, but more importantly you can learn to value yourself as much and treat yourself kindly even if that means having no contact with your son until he treats you with respect. [/QUOTE]
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