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Is it normal to feel nothing for abusive family members? (good advice here)
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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 673988" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p><em>"Distancing yourself to the point of having no feelings is adaptive because the alternative is self-destructive."</em></p><p></p><p>This fits beautifully with my thinking this morning, Serenity. I had just posted something about watching the positive feelings turn negative, and why that might be.</p><p></p><p>I wonder whether what I describe as resentment is what you have described as a severe stress reaction. Yes, I see that it is.</p><p></p><p>So maybe, those resentments come up to protect me from becoming re-involved with FOO because I miss them? (And I do. But I hate them, too, for what they've done.) Hatred and love are two sides of the same coin. So I am still braided into them, through and through.</p><p></p><p>So, I would be the bonded, people-pleasing kind of child. </p><p></p><p>I like that you said distancing ourselves is adaptive because the alternative is self-destructive.</p><p></p><p>Now I have to think about this for a little while.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 673988, member: 17461"] [I]"Distancing yourself to the point of having no feelings is adaptive because the alternative is self-destructive."[/I] This fits beautifully with my thinking this morning, Serenity. I had just posted something about watching the positive feelings turn negative, and why that might be. I wonder whether what I describe as resentment is what you have described as a severe stress reaction. Yes, I see that it is. So maybe, those resentments come up to protect me from becoming re-involved with FOO because I miss them? (And I do. But I hate them, too, for what they've done.) Hatred and love are two sides of the same coin. So I am still braided into them, through and through. So, I would be the bonded, people-pleasing kind of child. I like that you said distancing ourselves is adaptive because the alternative is self-destructive. Now I have to think about this for a little while. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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