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Is it wrong that I don't even like her anymore?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 173991" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Ok, hi and welcome. I don't believe your child is so beyond help that you need to send her anywhere. Also, there are free or low cost therapy clinics everywhere. Who put her on medication? Is it helping?</p><p></p><p>It can be a little slow on weekends. I happened to check in and glad you posted. some thoughts and questioins.</p><p>First of all, DO NOT assume that she knows how to behave just because you have told her 500 times. She could have some sort of disability that disconnects cause and effect reasoning. No matter who has already seen her, I highly recommend seeing a neuropsychologist. Above all other professionals, I believe they do the most intensive and long and involved diagnostic testing. It takes a while to get in, but it's worth it. My son was tested for ten hours. He was an "odd duck" who had gotten a collection of wrong diagnoses, including ADHD/ODD and bipolar disorder. He was actually on the high functioning autism spectrum and is doing great now. No matter what is the matter with your daughter, spanking won't help. It also seems that repetition doesn't work and her look of surprise sort of tells me that she isn't sure why she is getting into trouble. A neuropsychologist is a psychologist with extra training in the brain (knows neurological disorders too). You can find them at university or children's hospitals.</p><p></p><p>Please try to understand that while you are not the bad guy here, your daughter isn't either. Something is very wrong with her. She is not just a 'bad' seed trying to drive you nuts. Most likely, she hates herself for her behavior, but doesn't know how to stop it or can't stop it.</p><p></p><p>1/ Was your daughter's early development normal? Did she cuddle with you, make good eye contact, babble, walk and talk on time? Is she very precocious, a very early reader, a child who sounds like a "little professor?" Does she play with toys normally? Good imagination?</p><p></p><p>2/ Does she talk about seeing or hearing things that aren't there? Does she seem socially clueless? Any mood disorders or substance abuse (besides you) on either side of the family tree? The more there is, the more genetic it can get.</p><p></p><p>3/Has she ever had any supports in school? How does she do there? Does she behave in school then explode at home?</p><p></p><p>While you're trying to figure her out, I would buy Ross Greene's "The Explosive Child" and utilize his methods to calm your entire family now. Find a neuropsychologist now. The earlier you know what's wrong (and take into account that you may get a few wrong diagnosis. at first) the better the prognosis for the longterm.</p><p></p><p>Others will come along. Until then I"m going to leave a link for you to look at to see if either ring a bell:</p><p></p><p><a href="http://www.childbrain.com/pddassess.html" target="_blank">http://www.childbrain.com/pddassess.html</a></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 173991, member: 1550"] Ok, hi and welcome. I don't believe your child is so beyond help that you need to send her anywhere. Also, there are free or low cost therapy clinics everywhere. Who put her on medication? Is it helping? It can be a little slow on weekends. I happened to check in and glad you posted. some thoughts and questioins. First of all, DO NOT assume that she knows how to behave just because you have told her 500 times. She could have some sort of disability that disconnects cause and effect reasoning. No matter who has already seen her, I highly recommend seeing a neuropsychologist. Above all other professionals, I believe they do the most intensive and long and involved diagnostic testing. It takes a while to get in, but it's worth it. My son was tested for ten hours. He was an "odd duck" who had gotten a collection of wrong diagnoses, including ADHD/ODD and bipolar disorder. He was actually on the high functioning autism spectrum and is doing great now. No matter what is the matter with your daughter, spanking won't help. It also seems that repetition doesn't work and her look of surprise sort of tells me that she isn't sure why she is getting into trouble. A neuropsychologist is a psychologist with extra training in the brain (knows neurological disorders too). You can find them at university or children's hospitals. Please try to understand that while you are not the bad guy here, your daughter isn't either. Something is very wrong with her. She is not just a 'bad' seed trying to drive you nuts. Most likely, she hates herself for her behavior, but doesn't know how to stop it or can't stop it. 1/ Was your daughter's early development normal? Did she cuddle with you, make good eye contact, babble, walk and talk on time? Is she very precocious, a very early reader, a child who sounds like a "little professor?" Does she play with toys normally? Good imagination? 2/ Does she talk about seeing or hearing things that aren't there? Does she seem socially clueless? Any mood disorders or substance abuse (besides you) on either side of the family tree? The more there is, the more genetic it can get. 3/Has she ever had any supports in school? How does she do there? Does she behave in school then explode at home? While you're trying to figure her out, I would buy Ross Greene's "The Explosive Child" and utilize his methods to calm your entire family now. Find a neuropsychologist now. The earlier you know what's wrong (and take into account that you may get a few wrong diagnosis. at first) the better the prognosis for the longterm. Others will come along. Until then I"m going to leave a link for you to look at to see if either ring a bell: [url]http://www.childbrain.com/pddassess.html[/url] [/QUOTE]
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