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Is J gifted (and should I give up)?
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 534411" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>For us this was indeed the problem. We did lot of social stories and role play and while it worked beautifully to some structured, simple or emotionally low-charged situation (my difficult child was really clueless and needed to be taught, which your J may not be) it didn't help with complex, chaotic and emotionally charged situations much. In other words, those tools didn't help a lot with peer relationships. </p><p></p><p>Your saying that J is better with girls is something very positive to me. It shows that he knows how to do that stuff. With other boys he just may want so much to play the rowdier way, that he doesn't take notice if other one also wants to do that. And also competitiveness comes more to play. Both of my boys are highly competitive, difficult child extremely so, and while my easy child knows when to ease, it is still a problem for my difficult child. He still reacts really badly to loosing and has difficult time with 'friendly play.' For him anyone else winning is an personal insult (that does make him a typical for his sport and position, though, as strange as it sounds) and he is also perfectionist in many ways.</p><p></p><p>Your J seems much more proactive than reactive. How much are you able to watch him play with peers? How does he react when you take him out of play because of him being too rowdy or not respecting boundaries? You have probably talked a lot about the matter. How does J himself explain breaking boundaries? Does he not notice them while excited? I'm thinking maybe you could have some kind of system, there you give him some signal, when he is about to go too far. That kind of real time teaching could be effective, if he is able to take guiding while excited. Or maybe take him side for the moment when you see he is getting to excited?</p><p></p><p>Oh, and different kind of gifted people, my difficult child goes to this. IQ somewhere in 99,9 %, but I can't say he would have a lot of passion for learning or high level interests. May of course be, that it is because he would so much love tofit into the 'dumb but popular jock' stereotype. No chance for that, unfortunately.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 534411, member: 14557"] For us this was indeed the problem. We did lot of social stories and role play and while it worked beautifully to some structured, simple or emotionally low-charged situation (my difficult child was really clueless and needed to be taught, which your J may not be) it didn't help with complex, chaotic and emotionally charged situations much. In other words, those tools didn't help a lot with peer relationships. Your saying that J is better with girls is something very positive to me. It shows that he knows how to do that stuff. With other boys he just may want so much to play the rowdier way, that he doesn't take notice if other one also wants to do that. And also competitiveness comes more to play. Both of my boys are highly competitive, difficult child extremely so, and while my easy child knows when to ease, it is still a problem for my difficult child. He still reacts really badly to loosing and has difficult time with 'friendly play.' For him anyone else winning is an personal insult (that does make him a typical for his sport and position, though, as strange as it sounds) and he is also perfectionist in many ways. Your J seems much more proactive than reactive. How much are you able to watch him play with peers? How does he react when you take him out of play because of him being too rowdy or not respecting boundaries? You have probably talked a lot about the matter. How does J himself explain breaking boundaries? Does he not notice them while excited? I'm thinking maybe you could have some kind of system, there you give him some signal, when he is about to go too far. That kind of real time teaching could be effective, if he is able to take guiding while excited. Or maybe take him side for the moment when you see he is getting to excited? Oh, and different kind of gifted people, my difficult child goes to this. IQ somewhere in 99,9 %, but I can't say he would have a lot of passion for learning or high level interests. May of course be, that it is because he would so much love tofit into the 'dumb but popular jock' stereotype. No chance for that, unfortunately. [/QUOTE]
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