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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 748754" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I agree with this.</p><p></p><p>It sounds like the move is just confirming a state of affairs that has been developing for awhile, for close to a year, since her mother decided about the move, and since your step-daughter decided to no longer come to your house. Assuming your husband had partial physical custody, there seems to have been some acquiescence on his part to the changing state of affairs.</p><p></p><p>As you and your husband have made the decision to not fight the move, I think I would try to let it go. The child for reasons that seem unclear responded by pulling even farther away, following the decision by her mother to move. It's impossible to know the motivations of anybody involved, in making or allowing or responding to these changes.</p><p></p><p>The child could well have felt rejection or abandonment by her father, who knows. Or she could have been influenced by her mother, in what one parent here, called parental alienation. Or some other thing.</p><p></p><p>I guess I am saying here, what can you do, now, with all of this water under the bridge? </p><p></p><p>What I do feel, is this child merits a certain amount of compassion. She seems to be struggling and suffering for reasons that are unclear. Whether she has a development disorder or an incipient mental illness, or it is something else, like a response to what is happening around her, is unclear. </p><p></p><p>What would help I think is a commitment by one or both of her parents to get to the bottom of this by taking her to a developmental neuropsychologist for a proper diagnosis and treatment plan. But it's unclear whether your husband has the legal authority to take his child to this kind of professional. </p><p></p><p>What I did is to take my son to the Child Development Center at a regional Children's Hospital. There he saw a neuropsychologist for a team workup, supported by a team consisting of a psychiatrist, a neurologist, and a psychiatric social worker. Many of us here on this board have found this to be a helpful step.</p><p></p><p>Take care and welcome.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 748754, member: 18958"] I agree with this. It sounds like the move is just confirming a state of affairs that has been developing for awhile, for close to a year, since her mother decided about the move, and since your step-daughter decided to no longer come to your house. Assuming your husband had partial physical custody, there seems to have been some acquiescence on his part to the changing state of affairs. As you and your husband have made the decision to not fight the move, I think I would try to let it go. The child for reasons that seem unclear responded by pulling even farther away, following the decision by her mother to move. It's impossible to know the motivations of anybody involved, in making or allowing or responding to these changes. The child could well have felt rejection or abandonment by her father, who knows. Or she could have been influenced by her mother, in what one parent here, called parental alienation. Or some other thing. I guess I am saying here, what can you do, now, with all of this water under the bridge? What I do feel, is this child merits a certain amount of compassion. She seems to be struggling and suffering for reasons that are unclear. Whether she has a development disorder or an incipient mental illness, or it is something else, like a response to what is happening around her, is unclear. What would help I think is a commitment by one or both of her parents to get to the bottom of this by taking her to a developmental neuropsychologist for a proper diagnosis and treatment plan. But it's unclear whether your husband has the legal authority to take his child to this kind of professional. What I did is to take my son to the Child Development Center at a regional Children's Hospital. There he saw a neuropsychologist for a team workup, supported by a team consisting of a psychiatrist, a neurologist, and a psychiatric social worker. Many of us here on this board have found this to be a helpful step. Take care and welcome. [/QUOTE]
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