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Is that where you learned to bite?
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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 354455" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>I refuse to allow my children to be rude to anyone. They can avoid her all they want but when she catches up to them, they best be polite. If this girl shows up and wants to join in with a group activity than they should let her. I refuse to let my children tell her to go away and that they want nothing to do with her. In our neighborhood, ALL kids get along and are not rude to each other. She will soon learn how to fit in. It is very good for all kids to learn to have patience with each other. If her behaviors continue, then I will tell her she is not welcomed until she can behave respectfully. Until that time, she should be able to join the group.</p><p> </p><p>The activities the neighborhood kids do are catching minnows, riding bikes, playing baseball, ect., all GROUP activities. It is the beginning of the summer and she should be allowed to join in. She is only 11 or 12 years old and needs the chance to discover that if you are respectful to everyone, you can have fun. I trust this group to send her a strong message when she is out of line. They WILL send her home but as long as she is nice, she can play.</p><p> </p><p>I am not asking difficult child to go looking for her to invite her into group play. I am asking him to be tolerable, a lesson of great value to anyone of any age. He is able to tell her when she is doing something not acceptable to the neighborhood style of play. He is able to walk away and tell her he doesn't want to play anymore when she is mean. When the neighborhood kids are doing something together, I will not allow the entire group to be rude and tell her they will not let her play. They can tell her that she can play IF she is nice and can follow the rules but not to tell her to go away while everyone else is having fun.</p><p> </p><p>It sometimes takes a village to raise a child and as long as the neighborhood kids are respectful and the parents are aware and can mediate issues, it will be far better for this girl than to have everyone turn their back on her. I would hate for the entire neighborhood refuse to play with my child even if he was mean. That would call for intervention, not ostracizism.</p><p> </p><p>Who knows, maybe in a few months it may come to ostracizism but that is NOT the first step.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 354455, member: 5096"] I refuse to allow my children to be rude to anyone. They can avoid her all they want but when she catches up to them, they best be polite. If this girl shows up and wants to join in with a group activity than they should let her. I refuse to let my children tell her to go away and that they want nothing to do with her. In our neighborhood, ALL kids get along and are not rude to each other. She will soon learn how to fit in. It is very good for all kids to learn to have patience with each other. If her behaviors continue, then I will tell her she is not welcomed until she can behave respectfully. Until that time, she should be able to join the group. The activities the neighborhood kids do are catching minnows, riding bikes, playing baseball, ect., all GROUP activities. It is the beginning of the summer and she should be allowed to join in. She is only 11 or 12 years old and needs the chance to discover that if you are respectful to everyone, you can have fun. I trust this group to send her a strong message when she is out of line. They WILL send her home but as long as she is nice, she can play. I am not asking difficult child to go looking for her to invite her into group play. I am asking him to be tolerable, a lesson of great value to anyone of any age. He is able to tell her when she is doing something not acceptable to the neighborhood style of play. He is able to walk away and tell her he doesn't want to play anymore when she is mean. When the neighborhood kids are doing something together, I will not allow the entire group to be rude and tell her they will not let her play. They can tell her that she can play IF she is nice and can follow the rules but not to tell her to go away while everyone else is having fun. It sometimes takes a village to raise a child and as long as the neighborhood kids are respectful and the parents are aware and can mediate issues, it will be far better for this girl than to have everyone turn their back on her. I would hate for the entire neighborhood refuse to play with my child even if he was mean. That would call for intervention, not ostracizism. Who knows, maybe in a few months it may come to ostracizism but that is NOT the first step. [/QUOTE]
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