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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 354910" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>StepTo2, I love the "love me or hate me" personality. I really think all kids should develop that. Maybe there would be less "followers" and more respect of each other. I also was unpopular for whatever weird reasons the kids could think of. None of them really made sense, could just be they didn't like my personality of "I am who I am and I like who I am so get over it." No one was ever able to sway me to do things their way if I didn't agree with them. Popular kids don't like to be told "No, I am not going to behave like that just so you will like me." or "Please like me, what can I do to make you like me?" I wasn't going to go against my values just to fit in so I didn't get to "fit in". Peer pressure never worked on me. I had a very strong sense of what was right and wrong and never ever allowed anyone around me to be mean to anyone. I lived with a "their loss" attitude while I enjoyed who I was. I never hurt anyone and no one ever hurt me (I would not allow it - I did throw a boy in the snowbank one year when a group of boys were teasingly going to throw me in - I picked up the leader of the pack, threw him in, and walked away leaving them standing with eyes and mouth open - I knew they meant no harm, just goofing around but I was NOT going to end up in a snowbank - I didn't like horseplay and I was not going to be part of it so I put an end to it.).</p><p> </p><p>Yes, as long as E wants to be involved - no one will force her to join in (I can't see difficult child and L asking her to come over and play) - and as long as she can behave. That is the rule for all kids not just those who have a harder time fitting in. No special treatment. It is E looking for a friendship on her own, in her own way. I think she is out to prove something that she does not have to prove and pushing a little too hard to fit in. A little bit of "in your face" attitude. If she backs off a little I think she will be fine. I really hope the kids can work this out without anymore biting. It will take a little time to see which way this goes and of course, if she continues to bite, she will be grounded for awhile from play and if that doesn't work, than she will not be allowed to play. I did that with another neighbor boy who tried to attack difficult child and showed up the next day to play. "No, I don't think you two are able to play together until you can learn to be nice. You can think about it for a week and if you think you can be kind then you can ask difficult child again if he wants to play with you. He showed up a few times over the week, "Nope, the week isn't up, are you thinking about how you will play when you can?" This one was several years younger than difficult child and difficult child did not want to play so after the week was up, we came up with ways of avoiding him such as difficult child had homework or another kid was over playing a video game the boy was too young for (I wouldn't let him in the house anyway since his parents didn't really know me), or we were leaving soon. He soon stopped asking.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 354910, member: 5096"] StepTo2, I love the "love me or hate me" personality. I really think all kids should develop that. Maybe there would be less "followers" and more respect of each other. I also was unpopular for whatever weird reasons the kids could think of. None of them really made sense, could just be they didn't like my personality of "I am who I am and I like who I am so get over it." No one was ever able to sway me to do things their way if I didn't agree with them. Popular kids don't like to be told "No, I am not going to behave like that just so you will like me." or "Please like me, what can I do to make you like me?" I wasn't going to go against my values just to fit in so I didn't get to "fit in". Peer pressure never worked on me. I had a very strong sense of what was right and wrong and never ever allowed anyone around me to be mean to anyone. I lived with a "their loss" attitude while I enjoyed who I was. I never hurt anyone and no one ever hurt me (I would not allow it - I did throw a boy in the snowbank one year when a group of boys were teasingly going to throw me in - I picked up the leader of the pack, threw him in, and walked away leaving them standing with eyes and mouth open - I knew they meant no harm, just goofing around but I was NOT going to end up in a snowbank - I didn't like horseplay and I was not going to be part of it so I put an end to it.). Yes, as long as E wants to be involved - no one will force her to join in (I can't see difficult child and L asking her to come over and play) - and as long as she can behave. That is the rule for all kids not just those who have a harder time fitting in. No special treatment. It is E looking for a friendship on her own, in her own way. I think she is out to prove something that she does not have to prove and pushing a little too hard to fit in. A little bit of "in your face" attitude. If she backs off a little I think she will be fine. I really hope the kids can work this out without anymore biting. It will take a little time to see which way this goes and of course, if she continues to bite, she will be grounded for awhile from play and if that doesn't work, than she will not be allowed to play. I did that with another neighbor boy who tried to attack difficult child and showed up the next day to play. "No, I don't think you two are able to play together until you can learn to be nice. You can think about it for a week and if you think you can be kind then you can ask difficult child again if he wants to play with you. He showed up a few times over the week, "Nope, the week isn't up, are you thinking about how you will play when you can?" This one was several years younger than difficult child and difficult child did not want to play so after the week was up, we came up with ways of avoiding him such as difficult child had homework or another kid was over playing a video game the boy was too young for (I wouldn't let him in the house anyway since his parents didn't really know me), or we were leaving soon. He soon stopped asking. [/QUOTE]
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