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Is there any way I can help him without tough love
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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 656229" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>One of the challenges of a site like this board is that you only hear the bad stories - or at least the ones that start bad.</p><p> </p><p>There are lots of other families out there where they have an adult child who has not yet launched - and is still at home for a variety of reasons. Some situations I know of include:</p><p>- a 25yo still at home, boyfriend has moved in; working on family farm, saving up for their own house nearby.</p><p>- a 19yo still at home, working full time but not able to really care for himself otherwise, has the support of home; this kid is medications and therapy compliant, and there is hope for improvement</p><p>- a 22yo who moved home to have support while going back to school, because of a tendency to anxiety and depression - didn't want to live alone or in a dorm, no support either way</p><p>- a 45yo with serious mental illness, tries (within limits of disorder) to be medications compliant, but needs hospitalization 2-3 times a year, unstable work history, was living with parents and has now been taken in by a sibling.</p><p> </p><p>I don't <em>think</em> I'd toss any of those out on their backside. The last one... well, I'd probably have been fighting for better social system supports before age 45, but I understand the family's rationale.</p><p> </p><p>Substance abuse. Illegal activities. Behaviour that negatively affects others in the home can come into this category as well. These are more often the trigger for "tough love", partly because nothing else has worked either.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 656229, member: 11791"] One of the challenges of a site like this board is that you only hear the bad stories - or at least the ones that start bad. There are lots of other families out there where they have an adult child who has not yet launched - and is still at home for a variety of reasons. Some situations I know of include: - a 25yo still at home, boyfriend has moved in; working on family farm, saving up for their own house nearby. - a 19yo still at home, working full time but not able to really care for himself otherwise, has the support of home; this kid is medications and therapy compliant, and there is hope for improvement - a 22yo who moved home to have support while going back to school, because of a tendency to anxiety and depression - didn't want to live alone or in a dorm, no support either way - a 45yo with serious mental illness, tries (within limits of disorder) to be medications compliant, but needs hospitalization 2-3 times a year, unstable work history, was living with parents and has now been taken in by a sibling. I don't [I]think[/I] I'd toss any of those out on their backside. The last one... well, I'd probably have been fighting for better social system supports before age 45, but I understand the family's rationale. Substance abuse. Illegal activities. Behaviour that negatively affects others in the home can come into this category as well. These are more often the trigger for "tough love", partly because nothing else has worked either. [/QUOTE]
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