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is there any way to recover positive feelings for difficult child?
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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 591417" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>ksm--</p><p></p><p>(((Hugs)))</p><p></p><p>My best advice is to put aside your dreams of a "good relationship" with your difficult child for now...</p><p></p><p>She is acting like a brat. This is NOT a person with whom you are going to have a nice, mature relationship because she is (at the moment) NOT a nice and/or mature person.</p><p></p><p>Also - in my humble opinion, you need to stop giving her "chances" in regards to trust issues. She has demonstrated numerous times that she CANNOT be trusted - so you need to remember that...and act accordingly. Don't leave her in situations where you must rely upon her honesty!</p><p></p><p>Also - time to start removing "Mommy" from the situation whenever possible....make difficult child responsible for herself! (That way - it gets harder and harder to blame Mom for everything that goes wrong - Know what I mean??) Have a consequence for not getting herself up...(and it should NOT be that Mom knocks on the door every few minutes as a reminder!)...maybe she has to walk to school....maybe you come in with a bucket of ice water...whatever works! </p><p></p><p>When you can start getting untagled from all of difficult child's issues - it will be easier to find those good feelings! For now - just do the best you can...one day at a time!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 591417, member: 6546"] ksm-- (((Hugs))) My best advice is to put aside your dreams of a "good relationship" with your difficult child for now... She is acting like a brat. This is NOT a person with whom you are going to have a nice, mature relationship because she is (at the moment) NOT a nice and/or mature person. Also - in my humble opinion, you need to stop giving her "chances" in regards to trust issues. She has demonstrated numerous times that she CANNOT be trusted - so you need to remember that...and act accordingly. Don't leave her in situations where you must rely upon her honesty! Also - time to start removing "Mommy" from the situation whenever possible....make difficult child responsible for herself! (That way - it gets harder and harder to blame Mom for everything that goes wrong - Know what I mean??) Have a consequence for not getting herself up...(and it should NOT be that Mom knocks on the door every few minutes as a reminder!)...maybe she has to walk to school....maybe you come in with a bucket of ice water...whatever works! When you can start getting untagled from all of difficult child's issues - it will be easier to find those good feelings! For now - just do the best you can...one day at a time! [/QUOTE]
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