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<blockquote data-quote="Ropefree" data-source="post: 237525" data-attributes="member: 6271"><p>Welcome,welcome,welcome. Shelter from the storm, hey? We are social animals and we do need to live in society with others. Children learn and we have an enormous job </p><p>keeping ahead of the learning curve with our children.</p><p>As a single mother of one boy I know the feeling and knowing that my child needs others to learn from and other kinds of relationships than what I as one person can provide on my own. </p><p>It is so good that you are in therapy. We are also. And at first it was slow going, but as time goes on some very good improvements have developed.</p><p>Frankly I do like the homeschooling and I also feel that it is important to be responsive to what is appropriate for a child to learn all that they do need to know.</p><p>What I like about the public schools from my own education and for my child is that</p><p>our society has lots of differant people in it and we do need to know each other.</p><p>The structured learning that children receive in public schools is hotly debated on all sorts of fronts. However all children do learn and it is vital that everyone</p><p> does know how to learn and how to get along with others.</p><p>My son received help in social skills at school with the help of the conselors who put together a "friendship skill group" that met at lunch. </p><p>Whatever pattern you have developed with your child is learned behavior, too. As the adult you are the one who sets the limits and defines the rules in your home.</p><p>When I changed the plan for my son in our home it was tough for a couple days. And after that it has gone much better.</p><p>What I say about manipulation as a parent is my kid is going to try and manipulate me and I do not have to spend a dime for that. </p><p>What I did to reform my household was simple. I took away all the electronic devises, and gathered up everything that was not put away. I changed my sons room as a symbol for him that defines a new chapter and new rules. </p><p>The thing is to change YOU change. You have to know what is needed and how to </p><p>put it in motion. then you have to keep up the program.</p><p>What is true for you you do know. When you are ready and have figured 'it' out then you will be ready to make the moves and redirect this relationship and point the child in the right direction. </p><p>Sometimes the unintended message a child who is outside the school system learns is that they are "to different". The struggles a person goes through through life are </p><p>developmental first and social second. Without time doing his work in growing up with others a child may misuderstand that he 'can not' rather than he has not had the oppertunity and did not learn these social lessons. Starting school now maybe a challenge for him both withing the class where he maynot have the materials grasped that his peers do at this point in their education, and being unaccustom to the structured learning setting. He will not be the first and he won't be the last and he can do it. </p><p>Maybe you will need some interum placement where he learns new behavior. Either way avoidance will just instill the behavior relyed on now and it is not workable.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ropefree, post: 237525, member: 6271"] Welcome,welcome,welcome. Shelter from the storm, hey? We are social animals and we do need to live in society with others. Children learn and we have an enormous job keeping ahead of the learning curve with our children. As a single mother of one boy I know the feeling and knowing that my child needs others to learn from and other kinds of relationships than what I as one person can provide on my own. It is so good that you are in therapy. We are also. And at first it was slow going, but as time goes on some very good improvements have developed. Frankly I do like the homeschooling and I also feel that it is important to be responsive to what is appropriate for a child to learn all that they do need to know. What I like about the public schools from my own education and for my child is that our society has lots of differant people in it and we do need to know each other. The structured learning that children receive in public schools is hotly debated on all sorts of fronts. However all children do learn and it is vital that everyone does know how to learn and how to get along with others. My son received help in social skills at school with the help of the conselors who put together a "friendship skill group" that met at lunch. Whatever pattern you have developed with your child is learned behavior, too. As the adult you are the one who sets the limits and defines the rules in your home. When I changed the plan for my son in our home it was tough for a couple days. And after that it has gone much better. What I say about manipulation as a parent is my kid is going to try and manipulate me and I do not have to spend a dime for that. What I did to reform my household was simple. I took away all the electronic devises, and gathered up everything that was not put away. I changed my sons room as a symbol for him that defines a new chapter and new rules. The thing is to change YOU change. You have to know what is needed and how to put it in motion. then you have to keep up the program. What is true for you you do know. When you are ready and have figured 'it' out then you will be ready to make the moves and redirect this relationship and point the child in the right direction. Sometimes the unintended message a child who is outside the school system learns is that they are "to different". The struggles a person goes through through life are developmental first and social second. Without time doing his work in growing up with others a child may misuderstand that he 'can not' rather than he has not had the oppertunity and did not learn these social lessons. Starting school now maybe a challenge for him both withing the class where he maynot have the materials grasped that his peers do at this point in their education, and being unaccustom to the structured learning setting. He will not be the first and he won't be the last and he can do it. Maybe you will need some interum placement where he learns new behavior. Either way avoidance will just instill the behavior relyed on now and it is not workable. [/QUOTE]
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