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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 118350" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>You know, Cookie, I used to do that myself. For me, I went to therapy- part of which was group therapy - and as it turns out, it was a result of low self-esteem and not being mentally/emotionally ready for things. (Not saying that's necessarily the case for your difficult child)</p><p></p><p>I tried to respond to SLSH before- I'll try again- my difficult child sounds very much the same. Mine went on a 1 1/2 hour crime spree and blabbed his mouth so much to the officer that no attny can do anything but plead guilty or no contest. Now, I have never encouraged, condoned, or permitted lying to a legal authority- or any person- but this should have been 2 charges and it turned into 7. Why? Well according to difficult child, he knew he did something stupid and was too ashamed to just say that because it wasn't cool, so he had to try to make it sound cool. Oh boy, did he do himself in! So, now I tell him, just say you need to see your parent or an attny. And at school- he's getting his A** whipped and tries to defend himself- but apparently tells them afterwards that he was fighting to hold his own- or something like that- because of course, he can't say I hit him in the side because he was choking me and it took 2 teachers to get him off me.</p><p></p><p>Yes, even though to others I know it looks like he's too over-confident- and I AM POSITIVE he still tries (and sometimes accomplishes) manipulating me, there is a major self-esteem issue with difficult child. I need to think of punishments that don't make that worse- like keeping him from friends at appropriate times. But that's hard because he's so impulsive and complusive about it---</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 118350, member: 3699"] You know, Cookie, I used to do that myself. For me, I went to therapy- part of which was group therapy - and as it turns out, it was a result of low self-esteem and not being mentally/emotionally ready for things. (Not saying that's necessarily the case for your difficult child) I tried to respond to SLSH before- I'll try again- my difficult child sounds very much the same. Mine went on a 1 1/2 hour crime spree and blabbed his mouth so much to the officer that no attny can do anything but plead guilty or no contest. Now, I have never encouraged, condoned, or permitted lying to a legal authority- or any person- but this should have been 2 charges and it turned into 7. Why? Well according to difficult child, he knew he did something stupid and was too ashamed to just say that because it wasn't cool, so he had to try to make it sound cool. Oh boy, did he do himself in! So, now I tell him, just say you need to see your parent or an attny. And at school- he's getting his A** whipped and tries to defend himself- but apparently tells them afterwards that he was fighting to hold his own- or something like that- because of course, he can't say I hit him in the side because he was choking me and it took 2 teachers to get him off me. Yes, even though to others I know it looks like he's too over-confident- and I AM POSITIVE he still tries (and sometimes accomplishes) manipulating me, there is a major self-esteem issue with difficult child. I need to think of punishments that don't make that worse- like keeping him from friends at appropriate times. But that's hard because he's so impulsive and complusive about it--- [/QUOTE]
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