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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 567613" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Yes - I think it is reasonable...</p><p></p><p>but, there might be a better alternative. Since she is 17, it is reasonable to begin "transitioning" to adulthood. Rather than making a big, black line (the proverbial "cut-off")...why not start handing over some of that responsibility now?</p><p></p><p>If she has a part-time job - she can contribute to her own cell phone, gasoline, and car insurance. You decide an amount that is reasonable...or even whether she should take over an entire bill on her own. (My daughter, for example, is 100% responsible for her own cell phone. She has a pay-as-you-go plan. When she is out of minutes, that is on her...not me.)</p><p></p><p>Another point that I continue to stress with my own daughter: relationships. Does she expect to be able to call Mom and Dad when she needs something? Does she expect to come over for Sunday dinners? Does she expect us to be involved and supportive? If so, that means she needs to actively work on maintaining a positive relationship with her family.</p><p></p><p>Maybe part of the plan you present to the therapist is what kind of "adult relationship" you want to develop with your difficult child?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 567613, member: 6546"] Yes - I think it is reasonable... but, there might be a better alternative. Since she is 17, it is reasonable to begin "transitioning" to adulthood. Rather than making a big, black line (the proverbial "cut-off")...why not start handing over some of that responsibility now? If she has a part-time job - she can contribute to her own cell phone, gasoline, and car insurance. You decide an amount that is reasonable...or even whether she should take over an entire bill on her own. (My daughter, for example, is 100% responsible for her own cell phone. She has a pay-as-you-go plan. When she is out of minutes, that is on her...not me.) Another point that I continue to stress with my own daughter: relationships. Does she expect to be able to call Mom and Dad when she needs something? Does she expect to come over for Sunday dinners? Does she expect us to be involved and supportive? If so, that means she needs to actively work on maintaining a positive relationship with her family. Maybe part of the plan you present to the therapist is what kind of "adult relationship" you want to develop with your difficult child? [/QUOTE]
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